We Aren’t Called To Be Ordinary // Heather Dillingham

Let’s play a game. I want you all to give yourself a work review right now. Yes, like those uncomfortable, once-a-year reviews that nobody likes.

If you stay at home, imagine this review is going to your spouse or your children instead of a boss. Ready? Let’s go.

Q. How would you rate your attitude at work?

Q. Would you consider yourself an ordinary worker? What sets you apart?

Q. What do you hope to get out of this job?

Three questions, that wasn’t so bad right? But those three questions can bring up some very real observations. Let me show you…

My Answers:

1. Ooff, can I plead the fifth? To be honest my attitude has been not great as of late. I easily lose patience with myself and others and have been finding it hard not to disassociate. 

2. Yes, while I would love to say that I am extraordinary, currently I’m not. I do a really good job of teaching my children and creating things for them, but I struggle with play and connection with them and my spouse.

3. I’m not sure, but hopefully functioning humans. 

Why the review?  Because what we do at work matters. Oftentimes those that we work with see more of us than our family. They can be the easiest ones to lead to Christ or away based on our attitude and how we present ourselves. Because of this, we need to work with a purpose. We need to work knowing we are called to be more than ordinary.

In Daniel 6:4 we see that Daniel gave a great example of this; 

“At this, the administrators and the satraps tried to find grounds for charges against Daniel in his conduct of government affairs, but they were unable to do so. They could find no corruption in him, because he was trustworthy and neither corrupt nor negligent.”

When the administrators and satraps of Babylon tried to find corruption or negligence in his work, they couldn’t. You have to assume by the text that the faults they were trying to find were normal, maybe even faults they had themselves. 

But Daniel, because of God’s work in him, wasn’t normal. 

His review would look something like this…

Q. How would you rate your attitude at work?

1. My attitude is great. I am kind, wise, and show discernment.

Q. Would you consider yourself an ordinary worker? What sets you apart?

2. Yes (I feel like he would be humble here), I am ordinary in the fact that my goal is to serve and serve well. I am set apart only by what God has given me. 

Q. What do you hope to get out of this job?

3. My goal is to glorify the Lord.

So the last question is, are you choosing to be ordinary at work, hiding your faith or giving into the stress to be less than what God asks? Or, are you choosing to lean into God’s abundance even if it sets you apart or makes you a target for those who don’t understand?

Take time this week, even now, to write out your answers.

God, I pray for each woman reading this. That we first and foremost understand how important we are in the work you have given us. God that you guide our hands and give us strength especially when we feel on the edge of failure. God I thank you that you can and always will provide the encouragement, strength, and wisdom we need. Lead us to be more than ordinary. Lead us to be like you. In Jesus name, Amen!

Conviction Brings Faithful Blessings

In our last blog we read about the importance of having a godly foundation.  Bethany Thomas shared about her childhood and how her parents raised her according to the Bible and then sent her out into the world praying that she would follow God’s direction for her life.  

She shared about Daniel and the other young men of Israel being taken captive when King Nebuchadnezzar’s army invaded Jerusalem and the “training regimen” they were to undergo.  Part of their training included daily provisions from the King’s royal food and from the wine that he drank.

But Daniel, because of his foundation;

“...determined that he would not defile himself with the king’s food or with the wine he drank.”

  Daniel 1:8

If you know my husband or I, you know that we are trying to plan our first EVER vacation together.  To a beach.  Where people wear swimsuits.  Between you and I, I’ve gained about 50 pounds since I married Mark almost 13 years ago.  I was underweight when we married, but that’s not the point for this story.  

The point is, we’re on a diet.  We bought special food and smoothies to drink for all but one of our meals each day.  Jeremiah, our youngest son, often watches me wide eyed as I try to swallow the thick, pasty substances or dry, almost stale feeling crunchy things.  You would’ve thought I was drinking some kind of awful liquid after losing a bet, but it’s only my diet food.  High in protein and fiber and full of yummy probiotics….but low in flavor and carbs.  As much as I don’t like some of it, I know it’s good for me.  It fills me up with good nutrients and vitamins and makes me feel full so I don’t binge eat chocolate chip cookies.  Not often anyway.

Similarly, in Babylon, Daniel may not have been eating protein drinks and crunchy sticks, but he was eating what was good for him and ONLY what God wanted the Israelites to eat.  I sometimes imagine Daniel and the boys standing in front of a glorious “char-dude-ery board” full of choice meats, yet he chose to eat what he knew was good for his body and was acceptable to God.  Daniel and his friends made a commitment to purity and did not eat the food that was forbidden by God.  They DETERMINED, or decided ahead of time, to stick to their convictions.

Like Bethany suggested, sometimes we get in trouble because we have not DECIDED ahead of time where to draw the line or what our convictions are.  Amazingly, God gives perfect insight into what we are to  do.

“Love the Lord you God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind and with all your strength….Love your neighbor as yourself.”  Mark 12:30-31

If you do that, you will not have to worry about what type of protein drink or crunchy stick to eat or only eat vegetables as Daniel did.  You will be pleasing God by obeying His commands and bringing glory to Him.  

But how do we do that?  How do we know what it is that God is asking us to do?  What are your convictions?

For me and I believe you as well, it is by spending time with the Father.  Not just a checklist of to do’s time with God, but genuine, focused, intimate and devoted time with Him.  Time that is beyond my morning “quiet time”.  This year in particular, God has been telling me and showing me the importance of having a Sabbath rest with Him.

Earlier this year myself and several women from my House Church committed to fasting and praying for one another for 2 weeks as we prayed through specific needs for ourselves and loved ones.  When we talked about doing the fast together everyone agreed that they long for the intimacy they had with Christ during our corporate fast in January and all wondered why we “lost” the intimacy we had gained with the Father during that time.  And we experienced Him again.  And to some extent, we “lost” the intimacy AGAIN when the fast ended.

In my time with God since then, this is what He has been teaching me.  I’ve discovered that rest is not a time to be lazy and disconnect from the world, but a time to connect with the Father.  Rest is instituted in a Person - the Lord of the Sabbath.  His rest is rich and sweet, easy and light, just as He said it would be.  “Learn of me.  You will find rest for your soul.”  This “rest” is a holy relationship.  

Resting in Jesus involves remembering Him, knowing Him, following Him, obeying Him, trusting Him and enjoying Him.

Christ has commanded and I am obeying and committing to a weekly (and daily if we are honest) Sabbath rest time with Him.  This is my conviction.  I am to set aside focused, devoted time to worship Him, pray with Him, study His word.  Marvel at His creation.  Stand in awe at His people.  Listen for Him to speak.  Respond with anticipation.  Be His representative in a lost and lonely world.  Share the gospel and honor Him with my surrender.

I am EXCHANGING a life full of to-do’s and half hearted time with Him, for the fullness of Christ in each and every day through worship and honest devotion to Him.  In surrendering this sacred time to the Father, I will be equipped, as Daniel, to DETERMINE in advance, how to honor God in everything that I do.

Our lives matter.  When we stick to our convictions and show discipline in following Christ, God is faithful to give us more of Him.  In Daniel’s case, he flourished both physically and in;

“Knowledge and understanding in every kind of literature and wisdom.”  Daniel 1:17

God rewarded Daniel’s faithfulness.  God will reward yours, whether now on earth (and 20 pounds of weight loss) or for eternity with Him.

Godly Foundation

When I left home for College it was the first time where I legitimately had control over my own life. I had been removed from my home environment and safeguards. My parents weren’t with me to make sure I went to church (I didn’t always). I had to take care of my own finances and say “no” to things I wanted but didn’t need. I can’t say enough how grateful I am to say that my parents are Jim and Val Anderson. They raised me according to the Bible and then sent me out into the world praying that I would follow God’s direction for my life.     

In the book of Daniel, we are introduced to four Israelites: Daniel (God is my Judge), Hanania (Yah has been gracious), Mishael (Who is what God is?), and Azariah (Yah has helped). These young men are from noble, influential families. Basically, the future leaders of their captive people. 

“In the third year of the reign of Jehoiakim king of Judah, Nebuchadnezzar king of Babylon came to Jerusalem and besieged it. And the Lord delivered Jehoiakim king of Judah into his hand, along with some of the articles from the temple of God. These he carried off to the temple of his god in Babylonia and put in the treasure house of his god. Then the king ordered Ashpenaz, chief of his court officials, to bring into the king’s service some of the Israelites from the royal family and the nobility— young men without any physical defect, handsome, showing aptitude for every kind of learning, well informed, quick to understand, and qualified to serve in the king’s palace. He was to teach them the language and literature of the Babylonians.”
‭‭Daniel‬ ‭1‬:‭1‬-‭4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

These young men were snatched from their homes, religion, and culture. They even had their names changed: Daniel was called Belteahazzar, Hananiah was called Shadrach, Mishael was called Meshach, and Azariah was called Abendnego. In taking away their names the Babylonians were taking their last connection to their roots.

Part of the training regiment included a change in their diet. Their food and drink was provided by the King to bulk them up and give them energy for their studies. However, there was a problem. The meat that was served to them had been sacrificed to the gods of Babylon. 

Daniel though wanted to stay faithful to God and His commandments so, 

“…Daniel resolved not to defile himself with the royal food and wine, and he asked the chief official for permission not to defile himself this way. Now God had caused the official to show favor and compassion to Daniel, but the official told Daniel, “I am afraid of my Lord the king, who has assigned your food and drink. Why should he see you looking worse than the other young men your age? The king would then have my head because of you.” Daniel then said to the guard whom the chief official had appointed over Daniel, Hananiah, Mishael and Azariah, “Please test your servants for ten days: Give us nothing but vegetables to eat and water to drink. Then compare our appearance with that of the young men who eat the royal food, and treat your servants in accordance with what you see.” So he agreed to this and tested them for ten days. At the end of the ten days they looked healthier and better nourished than any of the young men who ate the royal food. So the guard took away their choice food and the wine they were to drink and gave them vegetables instead.”
‭‭Daniel‬ ‭1‬:‭8‬-‭16‬ ‭NIV‬‬ 

There are going to be situations in our lives as Christians where we are going to be asked (and told) to change how we live life. The world is going to say that there’s nothing wrong with relaxing our guard. But it’s when we relax and stop seeking God that we fall out of the presence of God. He’s still with us but it becomes harder for us to hear him speak to us. Daniel was given favor and grace by God because he was faithful. He followed God’s instructions even when it would have been smart to go along with what the chief steward asked of him. 

What are areas in your life where you find yourself exchanging the ways of God for the ways of the world? Is your foundation in God strong enough withstand the sneaky pressures of your day to day life? I find myself having to concisely make the choice to focus on what God wants me to do.  

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

Saul to Paul // Sarah Mercado

I chose to write this week’s blog post for a couple of reasons. First, I am a procrastinator and it was the last week of this series of posts. Second, it was about Saul’s name change to Paul, a story that I am familiar with, so I thought it would be fairly easy to write about. I thought I would write about Saul’s conversion on the road to Damascus and how his name was changed to Paul following his conversion, signifying that he was a new creation in Christ and marking the beginning of his incredible ministry. 

But as I dug into scripture, that’s not the story I found at all. Saul did have a life-changing encounter with Christ on the road to Damascus and was transformed from a Christian persecuting pharisee to one of the most influential leaders of the early church. However, his name wasn’t changed as a result of his conversion. He continued to go by the name Saul even AFTER his conversion. I’m not sure if I was ever actually taught that his name was changed to Paul as a result of his conversion or if I just assumed that was the case, but either way, that’s what I have always believed. Maybe you did too. It seems to be a pretty common misconception.

So when did Saul become Paul? Well, as it turns out, Saul had a dual name at birth. He was a Jew but also a Roman citizen. Saul was his Hebrew name, and Paul was his Greco-Roman name. It was common for the Jews of that time to have both a Hebrew and a Latin or Greek name. In Acts 13:9 Luke refers to him as “Saul, who is also called Paul”. He was raised in the Jewish culture, so it made sense for him to use his Hebrew name, Saul, for most of his life. After his conversion, he remained among the Jewish people so he continued to go by Saul. 

But Saul felt called to take the gospel beyond the Jewish communities, so he began a ministry to the Gentiles. It wasn’t until he was embarking upon his first missionary journey that he began to use his Greek name, Paul. In doing so, he was able to minister more effectively to the gentile communities. Had he used his Hebrew name, the people he was sharing the gospel with may not have been as receptive. This approach to ministry was pretty typical for Paul. In 1 Corinthians, he talks about his ministry strategy of becoming “all things to all people”.

Though I am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible. To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law… To those not having the law I became like one not having the law... To the weak I became weak… I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some. I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I may share in its blessings.

1 Corinthians 9:19-23

Paul knew it was important to meet people where they were. He sought to find common ground with everyone, putting them at ease, and approaching them in a language and style they could relate to. His message stayed the same, but his approach and delivery is what differed. 

This name exchange was an intentional shift for Paul in order to be well received among the gentiles. He didn’t want anything, including his name, to be a hindrance to anyone receiving the gospel message. I don’t think it is a coincidence that the meaning of the name Paul is “humble, small”. This was definitely an act of humility for Paul. Paul was actually very proud of his Jewish heritage, referring to himself as a “Hebrew of Hebrews” in Philippians 3:5, so to no longer go by the name that would tie him to his Jewish heritage, was no small thing. God honored this act of humility, making Paul’s ministry fruitful, using him to spread the gospel more than any other Apostle and to unify and encourage the church. What a legacy!

I think we can all take a cue from Paul and take a look at what in our lives might be hindering us from sharing the gospel effectively. What do we need to exchange in order for God to work in and through us more effectively? Let’s “throw off everything that hinders….fixing our eyes on Jesus” as Paul wrote in Hebrews 12:1-2, and see what incredible things God does.

Sarah Mercado is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a follower of Christ, a wife, and

mother of two. She is a small business owner, and a founding contributor of Church That Matters. When

she is not working, she can be found spending time with her family and friends, cooking, reading, or

listening to a podcast.

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Hoshea to Joshua // Heather Dillingham

Ever read something and then just think, “that’s it!? There is nothing else?”

Not going to lie, that was me when reviewing this change from Hosea to Joshua. In this story, Moses is sending one man from each tribe to scout Canaan before taking the land God promised, but the actual verses talk about this significant name change. Well, let me just show you.

“These are the names of the men Moses sent to explore the land.
(Moses gave Hoshea son of Nun the name Joshua).”
Numbers 13:16

Two sentences and one man's name is changed for the rest of his life. His legacy, altered, his purpose chosen, in two sentences.

Different resources tell us that his name could have been altered to protect him (kind of like a blessing) or to point to the fact that Moses was already planning on taking him under his wing, but for us today, it leaves a lot of questions. Isn’t that like God?

Throughout my life, I have constantly questioned God. I think it’s a normal consequence of our nature. We always want to know, to have control, and to be informed.

But God isn’t that forthcoming and honestly, looking at the craziness of this world from the existence of galaxies to the heartbreaking realities that are in each of our characters, I am glad I don’t know it all.

Just like Joshua at this moment, the most we can hope for is that in the confusion, the fog, and the changes, we continue to point to God.

You see, his name change, while small, meant something. It changed his name from “salvation” to “God is salvation.” It pointed back to God.

In this, God is showing that even the little changes, a few characters here or there, make a difference for His kingdom and for our legacy. That we don’t always have to know the reason behind His choices as long as we walk in faith.

After all, faith isn’t knowing all the answers. It’s trusting in something DESPITE not having the answers. A hard concept, but something God reminds us of time and time again.

So, what act of faith is God asking you to trust Him in? Is there a name change that needs to happen for you? A shift in your legacy and purpose?

Maybe, like me, you need to let go of control even if it feels like the changes in life aren’t fast enough or big enough.

I mean, look at Joshua, this was a big thing but there was no pomp and circumstance, just two lines! Yet God used Joshua to bring His people to the land He promised.

God, we ask that you open each of our hearts, first to your truth, then to accepting the faith you provide. God sometimes it’s hard to accept that we don’t, can’t, and never will know all that You do. Help us accept the place you have created for us in this world. Give us grace when we try to push against Your will and lead us to see the importance of the seemingly small changes You provide. We thank You God for all that you are. In Jesus's Name Amen.

If you haven’t accepted Jesus, use this as an opportunity to let him change you. If you have, let us know in the comments, what small change have you seen God make in your life that turned into so much more.

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) toddler. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be seen taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

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Jacob to Israel

Over the last seven years I’ve attended many baby showers. And the best part for me is learning the name of the baby and finding out the meaning of the name. Sometimes the parents choose a name based on the meaning or because they want to name the baby after a relative. Other times it’s because they just love the sound of the name. No matter the reason, the name ends up being perfect for the little bundle of love.  

One thing I love doing for an expectant mother is to create a picture for the baby’s room. On the back of the picture I like to write down what the baby’s name means and a little prayer for them to read when they get old enough.  

For the last couple of weeks we have been talking about how God changed Abraham and Sarah’s names. Today we are going to learn a little more about their grandson, Jacob, and how God decided to change his name as well. 

Jacob was born to Isaac and Rebekah, the second in a set of twins. But while in the womb, Jacob and his brother fought constantly. To the point where Rebekah had to ask the Lord, 

‘ [...] “Why is this happening to me?” [...] The Lord said to her,
“Two nations are in your womb,

and two peoples from within you will be separated;

one people will be stronger than the other,

and the older will serve the younger.”’
Genesis 25:23

I don’t know how Rebekah felt about what God told her. But I do know that when the twins were born, Isaac and Rebekah were very literal with the twins’ names:

• Esau - “Hairy” 

• Jacob - “He grasps the heel or he deceives”

Jacob lives up to the meaning of his name. He deceives his father and steals the blessing meant for Esau (the oldest) with his mother’s help. Jacob spends much of his adult life running: from his brother, his father-in-law, from himself. But God tells him to return to the land where his father and brother reside: 

“Then the Lord said to Jacob, “Go back to the land of your fathers and to your relatives, and I will be with you.”
Genesis 31:3

Even though Jacob received the blessing of the first born through deceit, God still wanted to be a part of his life. To me this can only mean one thing, God wants our whole selves. He doesn’t care if we are angry, sad, or happy. Our Father just wants us to go to Him. God chose to be with Jacob and honor the blessing that was given to him.  

Jacob followed God’s directions just as his grandfather had before him. But even though Jacob was obedient, he was fearful to meet his brother again and after sending gifts and his household ahead of him he returned to camp, 

“[...] Jacob [was] all alone in the camp, and a man came and wrestled with him until the dawn began to break. When the man saw that he would not win the match, he touched Jacob’s hip and wrenched it out of its socket. Then the man said, “Let me go, for the dawn is breaking!”

But Jacob said, “I will not let you go unless you bless me.”

“What is your name?” the man asked.

He replied, “Jacob.”

“Your name will no longer be Jacob,” the man told him. “From now on you will be called Israel, because you have fought with God and with men and have won.”

“Please tell me your name,” Jacob said.

“Why do you want to know my name?” the man replied. Then he blessed Jacob there.”

Genesis 24-29

As a little girl, I remember my Dad getting on the floor and rough housing with me and my sisters. We would dogpile him and he would tickle us until we couldn’t breathe. But no matter how far the play went, I never got hurt. 

After a conversation with a gal at church, I now think that God wrestled with Jacob because He wanted to provide a safe place for Jacob to work out his frustrations and fears. Like a daddy rough housing with his kid, the Lord was there for Jacob and as a parting gift He renamed him Israel. 

Even after his name change, Israel still went through times where he struggled to do the right thing. But each time he went back to God after messing up. Much like his descendents. 

What are you struggling with right now? Is there a situation where you feel like you need to wrestle with God?  

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Sarai for Sarah // Mary Swafford

What’s in a name?

When I was young, I had a terrible time naming things.  I had a teddy bear named Teddy.  I had a baby doll named Dolly.  I once had a cat named Kitty.  It’s a wonder that my firstborn didn’t come home with the name Baby Boy!

Names are an incredibly important part of our identity. They carry deep personal, cultural and historical connections. They also give us a sense of who we are, the communities in which we belong, and our place in the world.

Naming demonstrates authority. When God created man, he gave him the name Adam, and one of the first jobs he gave Adam was to give names to everything put under his care.

While naming is tied to authority in the scriptures, it also reveals intimacy.  It allows for a person to know and be known by others.

I wasn’t given a name at birth.  Instead, I was given up.  I didn’t belong to anyone.  No one was there to claim me.  For the weeks and months I spent in the hospital awaiting adoption, the nurses finally named me Sara.  I guess it was an easier way to identify me than “baby girl with red hair”.  When you name someone, it shows there is intimate knowledge — a relationship.

I was renamed Mary once I was adopted.  Mary Elizabeth to be exact.  My older brother would say I was named after baby Jesus’ mother, but the truth is I was named after my father’s mother, who he never knew himself.  Interesting to think that I was once nameless and yet named after someone no one even knew.

The name Mary actually means; bitter, beloved, rebellious, and wished-for child.  I know I have been one or more of those things at some time or another in my life.  But more important than what the dictionary says about my name, is that my naming marked the start of a new beginning in my life.  A new path.  A new journey.

We see this many times in Scripture. The Bible records many accounts of God assigning new names upon believers when they underwent life-changing spiritual transformations. Just like He did for Abraham and Sarah. When God changed Abram’s name to Abraham, it marked a new beginning in his life — a spiritual advancement, a growing faith.

As further affirmation of His promise to Abraham, God also changed the name of Abraham’s wife from Sarai, which means quarrelsome, to Sarah, meaning princess. 

“Then God said to Abraham, Regarding Sarai, your wife - her name will no longer be Sarai.  From now on her name will be Sarah.  And I will bless her and give you a son from her!  Yes I will bless her richly, and she will become the mother of many nations.  Kings of nations will be among her descendants.” 
Genesis 17:15-16 

The new names that God gave to Abraham and Sarah did not in itself change them. Rather, it reflected the change God was performing in them. It marked the end of one chapter and the beginning of a new life. Consider that Abraham was 99 years old when God gave him a new name, and Sarah was 90. If anyone’s life demonstrates that it’s never too late to change, it is the life of Abraham or Sarah.

As my husband often tells our house church, “if you’re not dead, God’s not done!”  And when God’s not done with you, He gives you a new name and a new purpose.

The name given by God is the name that will lead us to God's promises. God changed Abram's name to Abraham, Sarai's to Sarah, Jacob's to Israel, and Simon's to Peter. Through those names God gave new beginnings, new hopes, new blessings.  Much like when I received my new name after being adopted by my parents.

Each of the new names God has given, marked new beginnings and profound changes of character in the lives of the individuals who received them. Likewise, we experienced a transformational shift in our lives when we surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus. Although our names might not have been legally changed, Jesus dramatically redefined our lives when we chose to follow Him — and we are not the same people we used to be!

Consider these phrases pulled right from the pages of the Bible: Fearfully and wonderfully made, seen, known, loved, children of God, adopted, not forgotten, filled with the Spirit, full of Christ, united with Christ, chosen, accepted, loved, forgiven, not forsaken, reconciled, free from condemnation, a new creation, complete in Christ, holy, blameless, without a single fault, secure, heirs, free, no longer slaves, transformed, renewed, God’s special possession, salt, light, not your own, bought with a price, created in the image of God, raised with Christ, dead to sin, alive to God, part of the body, brothers, sisters, sons, daughters, the bride of Christ, renamed.

Jesus gave up His name and identity for me. He became like me so that I might become like Him. When I think of this, I am reminded that there is no need for me to try to carve out a name for myself. Any identity I create for myself won’t last, only the identity God gives me will last into eternity.

“On that day I will gather you together and bring you home again. I will give you a good name, a name of distinction, among all the nations of the earth, as I restore your fortunes before their very eyes. I, the Lord, have spoken!” 
Zephaniah 3:20

God sees me, He knows me. He knows who I am and who I am meant to be — and that will be the basis for my new name that only He can give.  And for this, I will gladly “exchange” my name and my plans to be given a name He gives and the new purpose He has laid out for me in Jesus’ holy name!

Mary Swafford is the founder of Shaken & Stirred, Meals that Matter, Coffee Talk, and a Co-Owner of Boulder Coffee in downtown Sand Springs. She is a wife, a mother of 3 beautiful children, but most importantly a daughter of the most high God. You are likely to find her chugging or serving coffee, sitting in a tattooist’s chair, or making friends out of strangers.

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Abram for Abraham

As a little girl, I began to dislike my name. I couldn’t find it on keychains or other tchotchkes. It was the name of a town, which was boring. It was like being named: Paris or London, but not as popular. Then when I was around 8 I was in children’s church and learned the meaning of my names: Bethany: House of God or House of Figs, Rochelle: Small Rock 

I was fascinated by the idea that names have meaning. It was later in life that my Dad told me that it wasn’t an accident that I was named Bethany Rochelle. My parents wanted me to have a name that meant something and would remind me that my foundation was built on faith in God. I was a House of God built on the rock.  

In Genesis, we meet a man with a great name: Abram meaning “Exalted Father”. Except Abram wasn’t a father. Him and his wife, Sarai were struggling with infertility in their marriage. Yet, God was was ready to use this man and his family in a big way:

“Now the LORD had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father's house, unto a land that I will shew thee: and I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing: and I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” 

Genesis 12:1-3

Abram was called to leave his home, follow the Lord, and for his obedience God would bless Abram and his descendants. Sounds simple right? Except it wasn’t, Abram and his household go through many trials as they travel. Sometimes, Abram got into trouble and drifted outside of the will God had for him. But Abram always went back to the Lord.

In Genesis 17:1-5,

And when Abram was ninety years old and nine, the LORD appeared to Abram, and said unto him, I am the Almighty God; walk before me, and be thou perfect. And I will make my covenant between me and thee, and will multiply thee exceedingly. And Abram fell on his face: and God talked with him, saying, As for me, behold, my covenant is with thee, and thou shalt be a father of many nations. Neither shall thy name any more be called Abram, but thy name shall be Abraham; for a father of many nations have I made thee.

Genesis 17:1-5 

At the age of 99, God again promised Abram that he would be a father and to ram the point home, He changed Abram’s name! Can you imagine? Having God directly name you? By changing Abram’s name to Abraham He was telling Abraham to announce to everyone, “I am a Father of Multitudes” even though he didn’t have any children yet.

Not long after this name change, Abraham’s wife took matters into her own hands. We’ll get into that story at a different time, but let’s just say that when we try to make things happen on our terms instead of God’s we get counterfeit blessings. 

A year later, God blessed Sarah and Abraham:

“[...] Abraham was a hundred years old, when his son Isaac was born unto him.

Genesis 21:5

Abraham was a father at the age of 100. I personally can’t imagine how that must have felt. Having confirmation of all of God’s promises wrapped up in one little baby’s swaddling blankets.

Like Abraham, I too wish to be a parent. While my name doesn’t mean mother, it does hold significance for me in that I’m meant to serve the Lord and give Him praise. My parents named me for a purpose and I believe that God has called me to do His work. 

I encourage you today to think about not only the name that you were given at birth, but think about what God is wanting you to do with your life. Are you allowing Him to guide you? 

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Pride for Obedience // Sarah Mercado

In my journey so far of following, loving, and serving Christ, there have been many occasions in which I was asked (either by leadership, or prompting of the Holy Spirit) to do something outside of my comfort zone. To be fair, my comfort zone is pretty small. I am an introvert and while I enjoy serving, I prefer to work behind the scenes in a more supportive role. I don’t enjoy doing anything that would put me in the spotlight or draw any attention. In fact, I would say I am resistant to those things.

So when I am asked to do something that is in an area that I would consider myself weak in, my typical response is to politely decline and/or point to someone who is obviously a better choice for such a task. Whether it is speaking, leading, praying out loud, or even writing for the Shaken & Stirred blog. My doubts, fears, and insecurities are many. What if I sound or look stupid? What if people think I’m weird? What if I stutter and stumble over my words? No, I can’t risk it. 

Recently I had someone point out to me that this may be a pride issue. Now, I’ve never considered myself a prideful person since I don’t want to be in the spotlight or have any attention on me. So, this was shocking to hear. I would tend to think of that as humility, not pride.

In Philippians 2:3-4 Paul says,

“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others better than yourselves. Don’t look out for only your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”

So, the truth is that, if I am sitting on the sidelines, not doing what God is calling me to do because I am afraid that I might look stupid, that is pride. I’m more worried about myself and how I am perceived by others, than I am about that person that could be reached if would just let go and let God use me how HE wants to use me. I’m looking out for my own interests instead of others and that is not humility. That is pride. 

Ouch. That was a hard pill to swallow. But then, the Holy Spirit directed me to this scripture. In 2 Corinthians 12:9 it says, 

 “Each time He said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’”

So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work in me.

You see, God wants to use me in my weakness. The truth is my weaknesses are where God can use me the most. His power works best in weakness, and if I can just surrender my pride to Him, then I will get to experience His power working in me. I don’t have to try to do things in my own power, because His power works best in my weakness.

The Lord has been stirring some things in me for some time now and I have been resistant to take the leap of obedience for all the reasons I have already shared. One of those things being writing for Shaken & Stirred. So here I am. Laying down my pride. Exchanging it for obedience. Choosing to be obedient to do what God has called me to do, and to allow His power to work in and through my weakness for His glory.

Perhaps you can relate. What is God calling you to do that may be outside your comfort zone? Delayed obedience is disobedience. Where do you need to be obedient to allow God to use you in your weakness?

Sarah Mercado is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a follower of Christ, a wife, and

mother of two. She is a small business owner, and a founding contributor of Church That Matters. When

she is not working, she can be found spending time with her family and friends, cooking, reading, or

listening to a podcast.

Circle of Friends // Chelynn Broughton

If I asked you to make a list of every friend you’ve ever had since you were little, you would probably think I was asking for the impossible. I know that I wouldn’t be able to do it.  Friends are important to all of us. From a very young age, we begin developing relationships with people we meet at daycare, school, church, or our neighborhood, and we usually have that one friend who we call our bff. We want to share everything with that friend including sleepovers, clothes, activities, and secrets. This friend strengthens our imagination as we explore the world with them by our side. As we age and sometimes move around, we lose these friends and gain new ones. If we’re lucky, we find another best friend. When we become teenagers, we don’t want to do anything or go anywhere without our friends. Our entire world revolves around them. We fight and make up. We laugh and cry with them. They stick with us through thick and thin. I’m sure you’re thinking about those friends as you read this. I know that I am. When we graduate from high school, for multiple reasons, we tend to lose contact with those friends, but as adults, we make new friends. We tend to feel incomplete without a friend in our life. Because we are made in God’s image, we were made for relationships. Adam knew pretty quickly that he could not be happy without a “helper” who was just right for him, his bff, so to speak. 

Someone once told me that there are two types of friends: basement friends who pull you down and attic friends who lift you up.  Basement friends will gossip about you when you’re not around. They will share your secrets with others. They will encourage you to do things that might get you in trouble. They are never there when you need them, but they expect you to drop everything when they need you. 

There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24

Attic friends will go to their graves with your secrets; they have your back in every situation; they only want what’s best for you, so they will be honest even if it hurts, and they make you feel like a better person when you’re around them.

In the book of Job, God gives us an example of attic friends. In this story, Job has experienced great loss, including the death of his children, his servants, his livestock, and his health. 

When three of Job’s friends heard of the tragedy he had suffered, they got together and traveled from their homes to comfort and console him…

When they saw Job from a distance, they scarcely recognized him. Wailing loudly, they tore their robes and threw dust into the air over their heads to show their grief. Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words.
Job 2:11-13

Do you have friends like this? They may not know exactly what to say when you’re hurting, but they are sad because you’re sad, and they will hand you the tissues as you cry and not leave your side until you’re better.

We should regularly take time to evaluate our friendships and make sure that our friend choices are the right ones. Can you describe them as loyal friends who are there for you? If they are, make sure you let them know how much you value them. If not, maybe you need to  “exchange” them for those who you can trust. What Michael Wilson said on Sunday about spouses needing to both have Jesus as their number one goes with friendships as well. If both friends are focused on Jesus as their number one, then it will tighten the friendship as well.

A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.
Proverbs 17:17

Another thing to consider is what kind of friend are you? If you can’t say that you’re an attic friend, then maybe you need to work on that as well. Pray that God will enlighten you and make you a better friend to those in your circle of friends.

As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Proverbs 27:17

*If you’re looking for friends who have the correct focus, join us on Saturday mornings at Boulder Coffee at 10:00 for Coffee Talk or come to our annual Shaken & Stirred event this Sunday, February 19th, at CTM for a spirit-filled time of praise and worship with other like-minded women.

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

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Curses for Blessings // Jennifer Hayes

When presented with the opportunity to write I jumped at the chance. I had an idea in my head of what I felt moved to write.  This would be easy peasy!  Something already on my heart makes for quick writing.  However, as soon as I committed, the challenge presented itself in the form of a phone call (more on that later).

One of my favorite movie lines from the movie Bambi is, “If you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all”.  It’s easy to speak without a thought or care.  Some of us girls have the gift of gab and if you are like me you are probably a verbal processor.  I feel and share with words.  I have close friends who help me to safely process thoughts.  

As moms we remember the first words of our children.  We teach our kids to use their words and speak up.  We speak prayers both audible and silent.  We sing praises with words.  We feel the striving conflict of back talk, gossip, hurtful words, and broken relationships. We bask in the warmth of affirming words, accomplishment, encouragement, and kindness.  We read words, hear words, feel words and our days are consumed with words from beginning to end.  We can each recall moments when words affected our hearts negatively or positively.  If we admit it, we have conversations with people that infiltrate our thought life without ever having their physical presence. 

Scripture describes the power of words by characterizing them as fire, snare, sharp, death or life. Words lift, heal, and strengthen or they can tear down, destroy, diminish or cause death in someone’s soul. 

Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Proverbs 18:21 (CSB)

Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.
Romans 12:14

In Matthew 5:43 - 47 and Luke 6:27-28 we are instructed to bless those who curse us.  That loving those who love us is what unbelievers do because it is easy.  Clearly, loving those who are easy to love presents no challenge to our faith but we must examine scripture more fully.  God does not ask us to flatter or be deceptive in our speech either.  I think the tension with blessing those who curse is rooted in the hurtful wounds they cause to our hearts.  Even David struggled to bless those who cursed him.  In fact, the Psalms are filled with prayers about David’s enemies.  He poured his heart out to God about the betrayals.  See Psalm 55:12-14 and Psalm 55:20-23.  You can see that the person who betrayed him spoke “smoothly but with war in his heart”.  I think God loves our honest words!  In the last verse we see how David places this person back into God’s hands by saying, “But I will trust you”.  

Back to the phone call.  During our Daniel fast, I had specifically asked God to clarify a relationship for me.  Two days after uttering that prayer, clarification came with this unexpected phone call.  It revealed new exposure to a person who is an enemy.  This person’s past behavior has been destructive toward me and my children. There was relief in the clear answer to prayer but then the gulp in my heart at the challenge it presented.  My prayers immediately shifted. 

How do I bless this person who has cursed me?  Really God?! I agreed to write about exchanging curses for blessings. I am able to hold my tongue but the deeper part of my heart struggles with how in the world do I bless this person? I am completely frozen.  There is the question.  How do I exchange cursing with blessing?  This is the test of my faith.  My prayers are just like David.  Don’t you see God what this person has done to me?  My heart continues to beg God for attention to this matter. I wish I could say blessings simply roll off my tongue for this person.  Instead, it is a prayer just like David’s and I trust them to God. In fact, the first verse that came to mind and my first prayer is that no weapon formed against me will prosper (Isaiah 54:17).  In some ways I am stuck there so how do I move forward?

I think blessing instead of cursing will require baby steps.  Just like a baby practices talking or walking I will have to take one step at a time.  

Here are my 4 steps/levels.  

• Level 1:  Trust them to God.  Speak frustrations to Him. Then ask Him to teach us how to bless. Psalm 25:4-5  Psalm 31:1-2  Psalm 25:20-21

• Level 2:  Take thoughts captive and make them obedient to Christ.  This could mean purposely stopping that thought process of ruminating.  God knows the battle in our mind and the battle we cannot see. 2 Corinthians 10:4-5  Psalm 19:14 Psalm 16:7-8 

• Level 3:  Speak life.  This does not call us to speak life to them directly.  Maybe speak life about them.  Start by simply speaking God’s word about them.  It could be praying God’s will in their life.  For example:  Father, I pray they find their hope in you (Psalm 39:7).  I pray that God will fulfill his good purpose for (insert their name) Philippians 2:14.  In the same way I sometimes put my name into scripture or my child’s name I am putting their name into the scripture. I Peter 3:9 CSB says to “not pay back evil for evil or insult for insult but, on the contrary, give a blessing, since you were called for this, so that you may inherit a blessing.”

• Level 4:  Let God speak. This level is one God would be divinely moving. In my life, a divine intervention is needed on my behalf with this individual.  I do not feel ready for a face to face encounter, yet.  God does ask us to be wise as serpents and gentle as doves.  Matthew 10:16-20 ends with this exact thought that our words become His, “because it isn’t you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father is speaking through you.”  I cannot describe how this happens but I have experienced this profound knowing what to say in a specific moment so much that I knew it was the Spirit speaking through me. Proverbs 25:11

I wish I could say I have written an article about something I mastered.  Instead, I am writing to prepare and learn.  There may be steps I cannot see and the remainder of Romans 12 also presents some practical ways to bless instead of curse.  The steps above are my baby steps to help me and I hope they help others learn to exchange curses for blessings.

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Happiness for Joy

The scent of lilacs, honeysuckle, and Eucalyptus. A cool breeze ruffling my hair while the sun warms my shoulders. The chuckle my husband lets out when I surprise him with a joke or dry comment. The cuddles and puppy kisses my dog gives in the mornings. All of these things bring happiness to my heart and mind. 

But that happiness is just as fleeting the next moment when something goes wrong. Along with the scents of flowers comes oppressive humidity, the warmth on my shoulders becomes a sunburn, or the puppy cuddles result in the dog running when he’s let out to do his business.  

Happiness itself means “the state of being happy (showing pleasure or contentment)”. Contentment is fleeting when it relies on outside forces such as the weather, family, jobs, or hobbies. 

But something even better than happiness is available to all of us: Joy. In John 15:9-11 Jesus said, 

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.”

Joy is a feeling of great pleasure or happiness. While I am made happy by God’s creation I am even more happy knowing that Jesus is inside of me and sharing his love and joy. 

Last week we had a worship night at church and amongst all the struggles I was/am dealing with it was so nice to stop and just sing praises to God. I can feel peace and joy when I focus on my heavenly Father. I know that he is powerful, faithful, loving, and forgiving.

Where do you find your happiness? Do you find it comes and goes from moment to moment? If so it might be because you’ve put your happiness into things of this world instead of the consistent happiness that can be found in God.

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Plan for Purpose // Mary Swafford

If you’ve read any of my blogs from the past, you already know that I became a Christian when I was around 8 years old at a Vacation Bible School program at my local church.  It was during this time, when I not only had a very real encounter with Christ for the first time, but also when He called me to missions.

The call to missions created a stirring in my heart that I didn’t understand.  I was already in ballet at the time.  I LOVED ballet.  I wanted nothing more than to be a professional ballet dancer for the American Ballet Company in New York.  I spent many years focused on this dream.  By the time I was 16, I was probably dancing 30 hours a week and the call to missions was a distant memory.  

This same summer, while I was at Falls Creek with my church’s youth group, my right ankle swelled up the size of a cantaloupe for no apparent reason.  I’m sure there must have been a great deal of pain involved as well, but I only remember the extreme swelling.  The swelling and presumed pain kept me from being able to dance when I returned home.  The details of the next year are foggy by now, but I know they were riddled with Dr’s appointments and tests and x-rays.  Cortisone shots and draining of fluid off of my ankle.  The more I was poked and prodded the more arthritis they found.  Both big toes, both ankles, both knees, both hips, my neck.  You see how this is going.  Eventually it was decided I had osteoarthritis (very uncommon in 16 year olds) and at one point I was even told that if I wanted to walk by the time I was 18 I had to quit ballet.

My world was shattered in an instant.  Everything I had planned for, trained for, dreamed of was over.  MY whole purpose in life had been to be a ballet dancer.  I didn’t know who I was without ballet.  I didn’t know how I was supposed to act or what I was supposed to do.  I didn’t even know how to hang out with friends because I had always been at the dance studio.  

I spent the next many years trying to fill a void in me that I thought could only be occupied by ballet.  I tried to find my identity and purpose in other things and other people.  Often drinking alcohol and going to parties.  But all of these only left me more empty.  More ashamed.  More broken.

One day, in the still quiet of my bedroom, I heard a whisper that was louder than a scream ask me, “What are you doing?” and in an instant God showed me exactly where my life was headed if I continued to seek purpose and fulfillment in the things of this world.  He told me, “I didn’t create you for this!”

You see, purpose isn’t found in a program, a plan, a curriculum or even a bunch of activities.  Purpose is a person.  The person of Jesus!  Purpose is a byproduct of a Jesus encounter.  You can’t separate purpose from His presence.  We can’t have purpose without His presence in our lives.  The good news is that He promises believers that we will always have His presence;

“And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” 
Matthew 28:20

My problem wasn't that God had left me to suffer alone.  He was with me all along, but I wasn’t sitting in His presence.

When we seek Jesus, we will find Him AND His purpose for our lives.

“Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will hear you.  You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.” 
Jeremiah 29:12-13

This is how we find our identity and purpose because the Lord reveals His plans for us when we are in His presence!  If you want to be who God is calling you to be, you must prioritize time with the Person, not the plan.  God wants His presence to be enough for you.  He wants to be your main desire.  When His presence becomes your pursuit, He will reveal His plan!!

A week ago, a good friend sent the following to me and I think it sums up perfectly what God’s plan is for my life:

My life is not about my ministry.

It's not about my calling or my accomplishments.

It's not about writing a book or about gaining followers.

No.

My life's purpose is to worship my Savior.

It is to walk with Him and learn from Him.

It is to know His heart.

My life is about drawing closer to Him and letting

the things of this world fall away.  My life is about living a life that is pleasing to Him.

My life is about dying to my own wants, desires

and plans and instead being filled with His Spirit

and transformed into His image.

My life isn't my own.

I have laid it down for Him.

I have placed it in His hands to do as He wants.

I want to be so full of the Living God that I then overflow onto other areas of my life.

Ministry is not my purpose but it is part of the overflow. Motherhood is not my purpose but it is part of the overflow. Writing is not my purpose but it is part of the overflow.

If I seek Him first then I will be successful at all these other things. I want to be so full of His presence that people feel Him when I am around.

I want to carry Him with me everywhere I go and in everything I do.

My purpose is to know Him.

To love Him.

To worship Him.

And then carry His Spirit in me for

others to know Him.

I don't ever want to get so caught up in how He will use me that I forget to get caught up in His presence first.

I want to be so caught up in His love that then He uses me how He sees fit.

All for His glory.

Forever and ever.

Mary Swafford is the founder of Shaken & Stirred, Meals that Matter, Coffee Talk, and a Co-Owner of Boulder Coffee in downtown Sand Springs. She is a wife, a mother of 3 beautiful children, but most importantly a daughter of the most high God. You are likely to find her chugging or serving coffee, sitting in a tattooist’s chair, or making friends out of strangers.

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Worry for Peace

This is the season of exchange. We shed the year before and bask in the hope and possibilities of a brand new year. I personally, was very excited to turn the page on my physical planner to the fresh month of January and got a little thrill out of placing stickers and important dates in the clean, clear boxes. 

Not only do we exchange the 2022 calendar for 2023. We also take a look at goals we want to accomplish in the new year. I would like to lose weight and to be even more active in 2023. I want to exchange my couch in the living room for my kayak in the creek. I yearn to spend hours reading in my hammock and to write every chance I get.  

But what is the one thing I wish to exchange this year? Worry.

I want to exchange my worries for the peace that only God can bring.    

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”

John 14:27

Already, this year I feel like I have a lot to worry about. My car’s transmission went out and my husband’s car, which I’m now driving, has an alternator that is on the way out. I worry about the state of my house and the clutter that is piling up and because I’m so stressed I feel almost catatonic. 

Whew. But,

“The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him. 

Psalm 28:7

If God is protecting, loving, and holding me up surly I can exchange my needless, worthless worry and have true peace. I can already see his hand on my life with the blessings that I’ve experienced. 

I’m going to list some of the blessings from the past 4 week,   

1. God was with us, as he always was, when my car’s transmission went out. He was the one that prepared the way for us to not only get our car to an open dealership on December 23rd. But to have a rental car meant for us to continue our Christmas trip to my family.

2. I have amazing in-laws who are generously lending us a vehicle so my husband can get to work. 

3. Thanks to the wisdom I’ve learned from Financial Peace University (Dave Ramsey) we had money budgeted that could be used to purchase an alternator. 

4. God blessed us with friends who were willing to drop what they were doing and help Charles and me replace the broken alternator. 

God is good! 

This morning I pray that you can dwell on what God is doing in the background and give up the stress of needing to work out everything for yourself.

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Safe // Mary Swafford

This is the final blog in the “Romans Road to Salvation” blog series and I have to say, these have been THE most difficult blogs to write for me.  I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but we’ve gone about 3 weeks without a blog and that’s totally MY fault.

Not only am I a procrastinator, as I’ve shared with you before, but every single time I dedicate time to reading and praying over what to write my day goes to pot.  I’m so tired I can’t stay awake, I have sinus crud, I’m so stressed I’m a ball of nerves or my emotions are all over the place and I just want to sit in a dark corner and cry.  My son has promised to watch the puppy quietly in the other room so I can concentrate, but all I can hear is him squeaking her toys, yelling because she’s chewing on something or complaining about her smelly farts.  Yes.  I just mentioned farts in a women’s ministry blog.  

But this is SO important.   This message is SO important.  This ministry is SO important.  God’s word is his love letter to his people.  The book of Romans is Paul’s love letter to God’s people and this blog is my love letter to you.  

God’s promise was ALWAYS to bring a savior for EVERYONE.  

In our first blog of this series, we discussed Romans 3:23 and how we are all sinners and fall short of God’s glory, but because of God’s love for us we can rest in the fact that;

“God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.” 
Romans 3:24.”

And the penalty of our sin was death.  That’s what we deserve.  God knew that we could never measure up on our own.  There aren’t enough laws or good intentions that will ever get us into eternity with God.  So he sent his son Jesus to die on the cross, taking our shame and guilt in our place and nailed it to the cross with him.

“He gave his life to purchase freedom for everyone. This is the message God gave to the world at just the right time.”  
1 Timothy 2:6

We have freedom in Jesus.  All of us.  Everyone.  And the good news is that this freedom is available to you and to me.  

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” 
John 14:6

He bought the ticket and he stands ready to hand it over to me and to you.  And you know how we receive it?  We must receive him.  We must believe that he is the son of God.

“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” 
Romans 10:9

That’s it.  YOU.  Right here.  Right now.  Get right with God.  It’s as close as your mouth and your heart.  For it is with your heart you believe.  And it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.  It’s so simple.  But why is it so important for these two things to occur?  Think about it.  Your heart directs your life.  It’s your decision driver.  And your mouth is your commitment maker.  Proclaim Jesus as Lord of your life and that’s all it takes.  If you believe that Jesus is alive and that he conquered death then you are saved.

“For everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.” 
Romans 10:13

Just like Paul wrote in the beginning of chapter 10, I paraphrase for you.  

Dear sisters, the longing of my heart and my prayer to God is for the women of Shaken & Stirred, Sand Springs and beyond to be saved.  Some don’t understand God’s way of making people right with himself.  They refuse to accept God’s way.  They cling to their own way of getting right with God by trying to follow rules or keep up appearances.  But Christ Jesus has already done the work.  As a result, all who believe in him are made right with God. 

This is my prayer for you today and every day.  Whether I seem to have it all together and I’m getting things done or I’m stuck talking about puppy farts with an 11 year old boy.   I love you! 

Mary Swafford is the founder of Shaken & Stirred, Meals that Matter, Coffee Talk, and a Co-Owner of Boulder Coffee in downtown Sand Springs. She is a wife, a mother of 3 beautiful children, but most importantly a daughter of the most high God. You are likely to find her chugging or serving coffee, sitting in a tattooist’s chair, or making friends out of strangers.

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Confess

On a winter night, 25 years ago, I was snuggled into my warm comforter on the top bunk. I remember looking up at the popcorn ceiling and thinking. “God lives on that half of the ceiling and Satan lives on that half” my arm sweeping through the air marking out the boundaries between the two places. You see,I was still trying to understand the concept of where, physically, God and Satan lived. 

Not long after, I asked Jesus to live inside my heart. I’m going to be honest though, I don’t really remember the event. At times, I worry. Does Jesus really live inside my heart? I actually confessed this fear to my Husband when we were dating.

We were heading west down 71st street and I shared my worry. 

“Maybe because I can’t pinpoint the exact hour in my mind, I never was truly saved.” 

He gave me a look and said, “Well, do you believe that Jesus is the Son of God?”        

“Yes.” I replied

“Do you want him to live in your heart?”

“Of course!” 

“Then you are saved.” He said with a nod. 

Romans 10:9 says, 

“If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”

God knows my heart and knows the year, the day, the hour, the minute, the second, the millisecond I became his daughter. Even if I can’t recall for the sure. Does that make me less saved? No, I don’t believe so. Does it make my story different? Yes. It is harder for me to know if my life is different from the time before I was saved to after I was. I hadn’t done that much living yet. But I do know that when I’m not pursuing God in his Word or in my prayers, I feel the difference. 

Have you seen a difference in your day to day life when you read the Bible and pray? Have you ever had a moment where you questioned your own salvation? You are not alone. Go to God and have a chat, talk it out. He is always there waiting to grab you up and say, “Welcome home, Daughter”.

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Gift

This is the perfect time of year to be thinking about gift giving. There are so many opportunities or obligations depending on how you look at it: Toy drives, food drives, clothes drives, work/church/friends Christmas parties. December is a month where we give, and receive, to the point of excess. If we are also honest with ourselves there is also that feeling like you have to reciprocate if someone buys you a gift you didn’t expect.  

I’m going to be the first to admit that I get weary of all the giving. I dread Christmas parties because it can take a toll on the finances and it can be hard to know what to buy for. At this moment, I know of at least 3 gift giving obligations in the next 3 weeks and honestly, I’m not all that excited about receiving the gifts. I do look forward to the looks on the faces who receive my gifts and hope that they are excited. But what I really look forward to is being with friends and having the time to sit down and hang out. If it’s with a mug of coffee/tea/hot cocoa and a blanket all the better! 

But you know what is wonderful about this time of year? It’s a time when we can reflect on the biggest gift that was ever given and cannot be repaid. In Romans 6:23 it says, 

“For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Jesus Christ our Lord.” 

Last week Mary Swafford discussed the birth of Christ and how He came to die for our sins. But there is more to it. He came to both die for our sins and bring us eternal life with him and the Father.

For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Of the greatness of his government and peace there will be no end. He will reign on David’s throne and over his kingdom, establishing and upholding it with justice and righteousness from that time on and forever. The zeal of the Lord Almighty will accomplish this.
Isaiah 9:6-7

How do you repay two gifts like that? I know that the gift of forgiveness and life are items I can never hold or pay. And God will never ask us to pay him back. God only asks us to receive the gifts He has freely offered. 

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.”
John 14:6

Have you given a thought to the gift God has freely offered? God has given you a gift that can be accepted all year long, whether it’s Christmas or not. His gift did not come wrapped in sparkling paper or bows, it didn’t come from the store or the re-gift closet. As you bustle about this Christmas season mull over the concept of the only truly free gift that counts. It came in the form of a baby boy born 2,000 years ago in the springtime in a town called Bethlehem. His name was and is still: Jesus. 

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Love // Mary Swafford

We’re on the road to our salvation story in the Shaken & Stirred blog series.  Last week Chelynn talked about how 

“all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God”,
Romans 3:23.  

Today I am here to talk about Romans 5:8,

“But God demonstrates his love for us in this, while we were still sinners Christ died for us.”

I have been thinking and praying about what to write.  It would be easy to give you a laundry list of my greatest sins….lies, rebellion, deceit, disrespect, etc. But God reminded me this morning that I am not the main character in my salvation story.  I am not the most important part.  He is.  My salvation story is not so much about what I’ve done in my life that needs forgiveness, but what Christ has done for me.  He is the main character in my salvation story.  My restoration story.

So I want to tell you more about Him.  

“But when the right time came, God sent his Son, born of a woman, subject to the law”
Galatians 4:4

God’s timing is so incredible, too.  Every day is a great day to tell you about Jesus, but what better time than during the Christmas season we are in?  As we’ll talk about, God is never late.  He is never early.  He is always right on time. 

It was not the birth itself that was special.  Or the location of a cowshed or manger.  Nor were the shepherds that came to see.  It was the Son of God that made this birth miraculous.  Jesus, the Lord of Lords and King of Kings.  Such a humble and lowly beginning.  Yet God was prepared to go to extraordinary lengths in order to reach us.  To reach me.  To reach you too.  

This was not the likely beginnings of a worldly king, but of a God who brings salvation, everlasting life, to his people.  His creation.  Whom He loves.  Through the life, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

God’s people turned their backs on Him.  Over and over again.  So he sent His son Jesus.  Born of the virgin Mary.  He lived a perfect, sinless life here on earth.  But we despised and rejected him.  

“He was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins.  He was beaten so we could be whole.  He was whipped so we could be healed…..Yet the Lord laid on him the sins of us all.” 
Isaiah 53:5-6

The Lord laid on him the sins of us all.  There is a lot of weight in those words.  I have a lot of sin.

“He gave his life to purchase freedom for everyone. This is the message God gave to the world at just the right time.”
1 Timothy 2:6

Everyone.  That’s you.  That’s me.  That’s every person that has ever been.  Past.  Present and future.  It was our sin, our wrongdoing, our wanderings away from God that He paid for.  We accumulated the bill and He was the one that paid the price, bringing peace, healing, and salvation with it.

The good news is that Christ didn’t stay dead.  Humanity put him in the grave, but the love of God, raised him to life eternal where He sits at the right hand of God for all eternity.  The good news is that Jesus offers us this same life.  A life with him forever.  

This offer is the greatest one that has ever been given.  It is the reason we live.  To say “yes” to Him is to receive the greatest joy and fulfillment one can obtain.

There is something incredibly special about the birth of a baby in a manger after all.  There in the midst of our Lord Jesus Christ, we find the hope of our hearts.  It might not look like much to some, but to those who have knelt before the Lord, who have confessed their sin and accepted His forgiveness, it is more precious and powerful than any earthly king or power or force before or since.

“For God says, At just the right time, I heard you.  On the day of salvation, I helped you.  Indeed the right time is now.  Today is the day of salvation.” 
2 Corinthians 6:2

Today, Jesus is asking if you will trust Him.  He is inviting you to experience Him and His love for you.  Will you say “yes” to Jesus?

Mary Swafford is the founder of Shaken & Stirred, Meals that Matter, Coffee Talk, and a Co-Owner of Boulder Coffee in downtown Sand Springs. She is a wife, a mother of 3 beautiful children, but most importantly a daughter of the most high God. You are likely to find her chugging or serving coffee, sitting in a tattooist’s chair, or making friends out of strangers.

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Sin // Chelynn Broughton

I was only eighteen when I got married for the first time. That marriage lasted for twelve years. I will spare you the details of how it ended, but I was divorced with two children shortly after I turned thirty. This was something I had never imagined for myself. None of my immediate family had ever been divorced. My parents and sister had moved to Washington State right after I married, so I was navigating these strange waters alone.  

I was still very naive and immature when I met my second husband less than a year later. I think I fell in love with his family and their church more than anything. His father was a preacher, and his mother was an English teacher like me. They had been missionaries in Africa for a while and were very involved with their current church. They were two of the nicest people I had ever met, and they made me and my kids feel very welcome and loved. Everyone in the church was so nice to us, also. Less than a year after we met, we finished marriage counseling and had a big church wedding. God tried to tell me I was making a mistake when I had a panic attack on the wedding day, but I was the runaway bride who didn’t run away. I am a person who avoids confrontation at all costs, so there was no way I could disappoint a church full of my family and friends.

Less than a year later, I was miserable; my kids were miserable, and I figured out that most of what I thought I knew about the man I had married was mostly half-truths that he had only let me believe.  I tried hard to persevere, but I couldn’t do it anymore, so I asked him for a divorce. 

A week later, I received a call from one of the church's elders, who I knew and respected. He wanted me to meet with him at the church. Of course, I agreed, and a day was scheduled. When I showed up, I was invited into a room filled with all of the church's elders (five men). They had me sit down at a table with them and then drilled me with questions about my motives. They then told me that divorce was a sin and that I would go to hell if I went through with it. I left there angry. I had listened to the minister of that church preach multiple times that no sin was greater than any other sin and that

 “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
Romans 3:23

Yet these men were telling me that divorce was an unforgivable sin. I’m thankful I knew the verse that follows that one:

“Yet God, in his grace, freely makes us right in his sight. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.”
Romans 3:24

I know where I’m going when I die; it definitely won’t be hell. 

One thing I’ve learned from this experience is not to rush into anything. Acting without thinking first is usually what gets us into trouble. I didn’t think I would ever marry again after that experience, but God had other plans for me. He led me to a Christian man who treats me like the daughter of the Almighty that I am. 

“And I will be your Father, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the LORD Almighty.”
2 Corinthians 6:18

Don’t get me wrong. I know that divorce is a sin, and I felt the weight of that sin afterwards, but because of what I had read in the Bible, I knew that I would not go to hell because of my sin. If someone has tried to bully you into or out of doing something by using the Word of God against you, please know that God has given us instructions for life, and even though the Bible was written many years ago, it is alive and sharper than any two-edged sword. It is not outdated. It applies to every generation. You can find the answer to any problem you have in it. Don’t trust the words of the people around you. Search the Bible for answers to your trials and tribulations. We should seek His wisdom first in all we do, and we will be wiser and make better life choices. 

“For the Lord grants wisdom! From His mouth comes knowledge and understanding. 11 Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe.”
Proverbs 2:6

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

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What You Need to Hear // Heather Dillingham

Have you ever asked a friend a question knowing their answer was something you needed to hear but didn’t necessarily want to hear? You listen, nod along, annoyed that they aren’t as fired up as you are or ‘on your side.’ Inside you know they are right but outwardly you don’t want to let it go, to forgive. I found myself in this spot recently.

My sister has gone through a lot and through it all we have continued a relationship. Sometimes stunted, but always there. One night in July however, that ended because of a misunderstanding and an overreaction. Less than a day later, my sister reached out to repair the relationship.

For context, I usually let things roll off easily but in this instance, I was blindsided by the events, angry, and full of hurt. I didn’t want to let it go. I didn’t want to forgive and heal. I wanted to be angry. I wanted to hold a grudge.

In this anger, I turned to a friend and before even telling her, I knew what would happen and without missing a beat, she calmly told me exactly what I didn’t want to hear. She said that God forgave us. She said if He was providing an opportunity to restore this relationship, I need to take it. And she said forgiveness is part of being a Christian, but the forgiveness God showed us, and the forgiveness He tells us to show others.

Ephesians 4:32 says, 

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

At this moment, I needed this. The hard knock. The grinding.

Proverbs 27:17 says, 

“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”

You see, at that moment, I needed sharpening. I was dull with anger. But part of forgiveness and being a person who can forgive well, is surrounding yourself with others who will sharpen you when you are dull.

Friends who will annoyingly remind you to be kind and compassionate. Someone who will say exactly what you DON’T want to hear but exactly what you NEED to hear.

To learn to forgive well, you need people who will help you learn to open your heart and let go of the hurt even when it’s hard. You have to use the tools God has given you to sharpen yourself and your compassion. To deal with the grinding and know it’s for your good.

That night I let myself feel my anger, I prayed, and I forgave. I can’t say the relationship is perfect, but because of God’s grace and the people He placed in my life to sharpen me, the relationship still exists.

Who are the people around you who will sharpen you? How have they worked in your life to remind you to be kind and compassionate, and helped you forgive?

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) toddler. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be seen taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

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