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Sarai for Sarah // Mary Swafford

What’s in a name?

When I was young, I had a terrible time naming things.  I had a teddy bear named Teddy.  I had a baby doll named Dolly.  I once had a cat named Kitty.  It’s a wonder that my firstborn didn’t come home with the name Baby Boy!

Names are an incredibly important part of our identity. They carry deep personal, cultural and historical connections. They also give us a sense of who we are, the communities in which we belong, and our place in the world.

Naming demonstrates authority. When God created man, he gave him the name Adam, and one of the first jobs he gave Adam was to give names to everything put under his care.

While naming is tied to authority in the scriptures, it also reveals intimacy.  It allows for a person to know and be known by others.

I wasn’t given a name at birth.  Instead, I was given up.  I didn’t belong to anyone.  No one was there to claim me.  For the weeks and months I spent in the hospital awaiting adoption, the nurses finally named me Sara.  I guess it was an easier way to identify me than “baby girl with red hair”.  When you name someone, it shows there is intimate knowledge — a relationship.

I was renamed Mary once I was adopted.  Mary Elizabeth to be exact.  My older brother would say I was named after baby Jesus’ mother, but the truth is I was named after my father’s mother, who he never knew himself.  Interesting to think that I was once nameless and yet named after someone no one even knew.

The name Mary actually means; bitter, beloved, rebellious, and wished-for child.  I know I have been one or more of those things at some time or another in my life.  But more important than what the dictionary says about my name, is that my naming marked the start of a new beginning in my life.  A new path.  A new journey.

We see this many times in Scripture. The Bible records many accounts of God assigning new names upon believers when they underwent life-changing spiritual transformations. Just like He did for Abraham and Sarah. When God changed Abram’s name to Abraham, it marked a new beginning in his life — a spiritual advancement, a growing faith.

As further affirmation of His promise to Abraham, God also changed the name of Abraham’s wife from Sarai, which means quarrelsome, to Sarah, meaning princess. 

“Then God said to Abraham, Regarding Sarai, your wife - her name will no longer be Sarai.  From now on her name will be Sarah.  And I will bless her and give you a son from her!  Yes I will bless her richly, and she will become the mother of many nations.  Kings of nations will be among her descendants.” 
Genesis 17:15-16 

The new names that God gave to Abraham and Sarah did not in itself change them. Rather, it reflected the change God was performing in them. It marked the end of one chapter and the beginning of a new life. Consider that Abraham was 99 years old when God gave him a new name, and Sarah was 90. If anyone’s life demonstrates that it’s never too late to change, it is the life of Abraham or Sarah.

As my husband often tells our house church, “if you’re not dead, God’s not done!”  And when God’s not done with you, He gives you a new name and a new purpose.

The name given by God is the name that will lead us to God's promises. God changed Abram's name to Abraham, Sarai's to Sarah, Jacob's to Israel, and Simon's to Peter. Through those names God gave new beginnings, new hopes, new blessings.  Much like when I received my new name after being adopted by my parents.

Each of the new names God has given, marked new beginnings and profound changes of character in the lives of the individuals who received them. Likewise, we experienced a transformational shift in our lives when we surrendered to the Lordship of Jesus. Although our names might not have been legally changed, Jesus dramatically redefined our lives when we chose to follow Him — and we are not the same people we used to be!

Consider these phrases pulled right from the pages of the Bible: Fearfully and wonderfully made, seen, known, loved, children of God, adopted, not forgotten, filled with the Spirit, full of Christ, united with Christ, chosen, accepted, loved, forgiven, not forsaken, reconciled, free from condemnation, a new creation, complete in Christ, holy, blameless, without a single fault, secure, heirs, free, no longer slaves, transformed, renewed, God’s special possession, salt, light, not your own, bought with a price, created in the image of God, raised with Christ, dead to sin, alive to God, part of the body, brothers, sisters, sons, daughters, the bride of Christ, renamed.

Jesus gave up His name and identity for me. He became like me so that I might become like Him. When I think of this, I am reminded that there is no need for me to try to carve out a name for myself. Any identity I create for myself won’t last, only the identity God gives me will last into eternity.

“On that day I will gather you together and bring you home again. I will give you a good name, a name of distinction, among all the nations of the earth, as I restore your fortunes before their very eyes. I, the Lord, have spoken!” 
Zephaniah 3:20

God sees me, He knows me. He knows who I am and who I am meant to be — and that will be the basis for my new name that only He can give.  And for this, I will gladly “exchange” my name and my plans to be given a name He gives and the new purpose He has laid out for me in Jesus’ holy name!

Mary Swafford is the founder of Shaken & Stirred, Meals that Matter, Coffee Talk, and a Co-Owner of Boulder Coffee in downtown Sand Springs. She is a wife, a mother of 3 beautiful children, but most importantly a daughter of the most high God. You are likely to find her chugging or serving coffee, sitting in a tattooist’s chair, or making friends out of strangers.

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Abram for Abraham

As a little girl, I began to dislike my name. I couldn’t find it on keychains or other tchotchkes. It was the name of a town, which was boring. It was like being named: Paris or London, but not as popular. Then when I was around 8 I was in children’s church and learned the meaning of my names: Bethany: House of God or House of Figs, Rochelle: Small Rock 


I was fascinated by the idea that names have meaning. It was later in life that my Dad told me that it wasn’t an accident that I was named Bethany Rochelle. My parents wanted me to have a name that meant something and would remind me that my foundation was built on faith in God. I was a House of God built on the rock.  

In Genesis, we meet a man with a great name: Abram meaning “Exalted Father”. Except Abram wasn’t a father. Him and his wife, Sarai were struggling with infertility in their marriage. Yet, God was was ready to use this man and his family in a big way:

“Now the LORD had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father's house, unto a land that I will shew thee: and I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing: and I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.” 

Genesis 12:1-3

 

Abram was called to leave his home, follow the Lord, and for his obedience God would bless Abram and his descendants. Sounds simple right? Except it wasn’t, Abram and his household go through many trials as they travel. Sometimes, Abram got into trouble and drifted outside of the will God had for him. But Abram always went back to the Lord.

In Genesis 17:1-5,

And when Abram was ninety years old and nine, the LORD appeared to Abram, and said unto him, I am the Almighty God; walk before me, and be thou perfect. And I will make my covenant between me and thee, and will multiply thee exceedingly. And Abram fell on his face: and God talked with him, saying, As for me, behold, my covenant is with thee, and thou shalt be a father of many nations. Neither shall thy name any more be called Abram, but thy name shall be Abraham; for a father of many nations have I made thee.

Genesis 17:1-5 


At the age of 99, God again promised Abram that he would be a father and to ram the point home, He changed Abram’s name! Can you imagine? Having God directly name you? By changing Abram’s name to Abraham He was telling Abraham to announce to everyone, “I am a Father of Multitudes” even though he didn’t have any children yet.

Not long after this name change, Abraham’s wife took matters into her own hands. We’ll get into that story at a different time, but let’s just say that when we try to make things happen on our terms instead of God’s we get counterfeit blessings. 

A year later, God blessed Sarah and Abraham:

 

“[...] Abraham was a hundred years old, when his son Isaac was born unto him.

Genesis 21:5

Abraham was a father at the age of 100. I personally can’t imagine how that must have felt. Having confirmation of all of God’s promises wrapped up in one little baby’s swaddling blankets.


Like Abraham, I too wish to be a parent. While my name doesn’t mean mother, it does hold significance for me in that I’m meant to serve the Lord and give Him praise. My parents named me for a purpose and I believe that God has called me to do His work. 


I encourage you today to think about not only the name that you were given at birth, but think about what God is wanting you to do with your life. Are you allowing Him to guide you? 

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Circle of Friends // Chelynn Broughton

If I asked you to make a list of every friend you’ve ever had since you were little, you would probably think I was asking for the impossible. I know that I wouldn’t be able to do it.  Friends are important to all of us. From a very young age, we begin developing relationships with people we meet at daycare, school, church, or our neighborhood, and we usually have that one friend who we call our bff. We want to share everything with that friend including sleepovers, clothes, activities, and secrets. This friend strengthens our imagination as we explore the world with them by our side. As we age and sometimes move around, we lose these friends and gain new ones. If we’re lucky, we find another best friend. When we become teenagers, we don’t want to do anything or go anywhere without our friends. Our entire world revolves around them. We fight and make up. We laugh and cry with them. They stick with us through thick and thin. I’m sure you’re thinking about those friends as you read this. I know that I am. When we graduate from high school, for multiple reasons, we tend to lose contact with those friends, but as adults, we make new friends. We tend to feel incomplete without a friend in our life. Because we are made in God’s image, we were made for relationships. Adam knew pretty quickly that he could not be happy without a “helper” who was just right for him, his bff, so to speak. 


Someone once told me that there are two types of friends: basement friends who pull you down and attic friends who lift you up.  Basement friends will gossip about you when you’re not around. They will share your secrets with others. They will encourage you to do things that might get you in trouble. They are never there when you need them, but they expect you to drop everything when they need you. 


There are friends who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24


Attic friends will go to their graves with your secrets; they have your back in every situation; they only want what’s best for you, so they will be honest even if it hurts, and they make you feel like a better person when you’re around them.


In the book of Job, God gives us an example of attic friends. In this story, Job has experienced great loss, including the death of his children, his servants, his livestock, and his health. 


When three of Job’s friends heard of the tragedy he had suffered, they got together and traveled from their homes to comfort and console him…

When they saw Job from a distance, they scarcely recognized him. Wailing loudly, they tore their robes and threw dust into the air over their heads to show their grief. Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words.
Job 2:11-13


Do you have friends like this? They may not know exactly what to say when you’re hurting, but they are sad because you’re sad, and they will hand you the tissues as you cry and not leave your side until you’re better.


We should regularly take time to evaluate our friendships and make sure that our friend choices are the right ones. Can you describe them as loyal friends who are there for you? If they are, make sure you let them know how much you value them. If not, maybe you need to  “exchange” them for those who you can trust. What Michael Wilson said on Sunday about spouses needing to both have Jesus as their number one goes with friendships as well. If both friends are focused on Jesus as their number one, then it will tighten the friendship as well.


A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.
Proverbs 17:17


Another thing to consider is what kind of friend are you? If you can’t say that you’re an attic friend, then maybe you need to work on that as well. Pray that God will enlighten you and make you a better friend to those in your circle of friends.


As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Proverbs 27:17


*If you’re looking for friends who have the correct focus, join us on Saturday mornings at Boulder Coffee at 10:00 for Coffee Talk or come to our annual Shaken & Stirred event this Sunday, February 19th, at CTM for a spirit-filled time of praise and worship with other like-minded women.

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

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