Respect // Chelynn Broughton

Good morning! This week we are looking at Colossians 3:18 through 4:1 and discussing the question: What examples are there to follow or commands to obey?

There are tons of “How To” books out there. They range in topics, anything from: “How to have a perfect dog in 7 easy steps”, “how to cope with grief”, to “how to take a vacation at home”. I even came upon a book entitled Training your Wife to be Submissive (check out this link to check out the cover). This book was written in (wait for it….) 2020. If you’re like most women, this makes you angry, and you want to raise your voice and tell your opinion of this ridiculous topic. How could a man have the audacity to write a book like this?! But, isn’t this exactly what Paul wrote we as wives are supposed to do in Colossians 3:18?

 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” 

What exactly does that mean? 

This word “submit” which means to accept or yield to a superior force or to the authority or will of another person, has bothered many women over the years, especially in the 21st Century where women want to be seen as equal to or sometimes better than their husbands, or men in general. God didn’t put man on earth to rule over women, but He did create them to be the protector and provider for the family. 

Let’s look at this in a different light. I am an English teacher, and on the first day of school for 25 years now, I have introduced myself, my plan for the year (my syllabus), and my class rules. The most important of these rules has always been, “Respect me, and I will respect you in return.”  Merriam Webster defines “respect” as: “giving high or special regard to someone.”

Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing. Because I respect my students, they respect me in return, and I rarely have any discipline issues in my classroom. I feel like the word “submit” evokes negative feelings, but if we substitute the word “respect” in verse 18 and the verses that follow, I feel like it is easier to understand what Paul was trying to say. 

“Wives, [respect] your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 
Husbands, love and [respect] your wives; do not be harsh with them.
Children, [respect] your parents, for this pleases the Lord.
Fathers, [respect] your children, so they don’t become discouraged.”

Servants, [respect] your masters (or employees respect your bosses). Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord (showing respect to the Lord), not for human masters. Masters [respect] your servants (employers respect your employees). Remember that you also have a master in Heaven.”

In these verses, there are commands for each member of the family, including the servants.  Paul wrote “how to” books to the Romans, Ephesians, Colossians, Thessalonians, Galatians, and Corinthians. Paul was trying to show them, and us, how to please the Lord in whatever role we play in the family. There is no such thing as the perfect family; we all occasionally struggle with our role in life, but instead of buying a “How to” book on what we can or should do to make our lives better, grab a copy of God’s word and see what He instructs us to do.  Hebrews 4:12 tells us that:

 “the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” 

It is not an archaic book that only pertains to the people who were alive when it was written. We can learn so much from it that will help us become the best at whatever our role is in life. 

I believe as women of God, we choose to submit to (or respect) our husbands because we love them, not because we have to, and in turn our husbands love and respect us. This was God’s plan all along. Have an amazing week my friends!

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

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Turning Back // Heather Dilligham

My daughter is at that age where running is new and exciting for her. She takes off, her two little legs barely clearing the ground. A wide smile on her face and hair whipping behind her as she giggles. Inevitably though, she will slow down and that face will turn to something else. Her revelry to uncertainty as she searches for something familiar, her mom and dad.

Just like a child, we have a tendency to turn back to what is familiar. For us, this tends to be turning back to the habits and sins of this world. Paul knew this when he wrote to the church in Colossae warning them against turning back to their old ways. He urged them to turn from their past, and revel in the fact that they are a new creation in Christ.

 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God.
(Colossians 3:3)

Just as the Christians in Colossae, we are all new creations in Christ. Fully paid for by the blood of Jesus. Fully forgiven. Yet too often in times of stress, trouble, and sometimes just in times of boredom, we find ourselves stopping in our run with God to look back and walk in our sin.

  You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
(Colossians 3: 7-8)

While Paul is talking about individual sins, he encompasses the idea that the sin to be avoided here is turning to look back. Because when we turn to look back, we lose sight of God. So I encourage each of you, don’t let uncertainty stop you in your revel. But, like a child running through the grass, arms bobbing and little legs pumping, keep running with joy toward God.

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) one-year-old. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

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Letters

For hundreds of years, maybe thousands, people have been writing letters.  In the U.S. we’ve been doing it since pens and paper became commonplace.  People who wanted to get in touch with other people separated by distance had only one way to do it; they wrote letters...the only means of long distance communication until the invention of the telegraph in the 19th century.

My mom’s mom “Nanny” lived in Mississippi.  That’s where my mom grew up and where I was born.  My mom always felt guilty for moving away from her family in Mississippi, so anytime we were on break at school, we went to Mississippi to visit my Nanny and all my cousins and Aunts and Uncle’s.  As a child, I only remember going on one vacation in my life, but we went to see Nanny at least 3 or 4 times a year.

Once a year my parents would let me stay an extra week by myself with my Nanny.  I'm not sure what the appeal was because I had to work harder and had less freedom.  But I absolutely loved staying with Nanny.  Every time I had the opportunity to stay that special week at my Nanny's, she always made me write a letter to my parents telling them about my visit and mail it to them.  Nanny had a phone, but putting pen to paper and telling stories and sharing a part of your life and your experiences seemed so much more intimate.  More meaningful.

My girlfriends and I used to write letters to each other all the time.  You know, back before cell phones and texting.  I used to have a box full of old notes that were passed back and forth between me and those girls.  I don't remember the content of those letters now, but I remember the joy and excitement of writing and later receiving them.

Words have so much power.

I received a letter written on March 30, 2020.  This letter was quite unexpected as I hadn't spoken with the author in quite some time and honestly rarely did.  We were Facebook friends and had once been a part of the same bible study, but our paths took different directions and we were rarely in the same place at the same time.  Nothing bad ever happened, we just never had the opportunity to cultivate our relationship.

As I read her letter, I sat with tears streaming down my face.  A portion of the letter reads:

"When I met you over 10 years ago... you intrigued me.  God was taking you through a transition in life and I have always admired you for that.  You were real and honest and strong!  I have admired you from day one. I see you now and I see how you are the hands and feet of Jesus.  When I see your face - I see the joy of Jesus.  You have what others want.  You have the Jesus spark! Please know that every day I am praying for you.  Thank you for being a beautiful example to me of how to serve Him and His children."

Her words gave me an overwhelming sense of God's love for me and His power to use His people to bring encouragement at just the right time.  

As I read the beginning of Colossians 2, I feel like I'm reading her letter again and the feeling of God's great care and concern for His children.  I imagine how the Colossians felt hearing from God, through Paul in his letter:

"I want you to know that I am trying very hard to help you... I want you to be strengthened and joined together with love.  I want you to be rich in the strong belief that comes from understanding.  I mean I want you to know fully God's secret truth.  That truth is Christ himself.  And in him all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge are safely kept. [...] I am not there with you, but my heart is happy to see your good lives and your strong faith in Christ.” (Colossians 2:1-3,5)

I love how Paul encourages them, he acknowledges them and validates who they are in Christ.  These are the words of Paul, but they come from God.  Just like the letter I received and just like all of scripture in the bible.

The more I study God’s word, the more I recognize that just as God used Paul to encourage others, God is continually writing love letters to others through me and through you.  Through our words, through our actions and reactions.  Through our care and concern for others.  

He places us at just the right moment in time to be His letter to His people.

Mary Swafford is the founder of Shaken & Stirred, Meals that Matter, Coffee Talk, and a Co-Owner of Boulder Coffee in downtown Sand Springs. She is a wife, a mother of 3 beautiful children, but most importantly a daughter of the most high God. You are likely to find her chugging or serving coffee, sitting in a tattooist’s chair, or making friends out of strangers.

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The Gospel Truth // Joanna Goodin

Wow. God wanted me to study Colossians chapter one this week. I am newly divorced (as in six days  ago) and my brain has been swirling with half-truths and lies that I believe Satan has been bombarding me with for quite a while now. I am glad to be in a place where I feel more able to focus on truth. That is exactly what Colossians chapter one does. This chapter is delightfully dripping with the truth of who God is. As I studied this chapter and wrote out what I could learn about God, I was so thankful and blessed for the opportunity. I believe that if you read and reread the chapter, you will be so blessed by it too.  

Paul is writing this letter from prison to the church in Colossae. The church had begun to leave behind important truths of Christianity and embrace beliefs of different religions. They had created a hodge-podge religion and had forgotten the deity of Christ. It certainly began to affect how they lived and the choices they made. The more lies they consumed….the more lies they believed. I have been there. It seems, at times lately, that I even question what is true about me. I wonder if everything about me is wrong. 

What was exceptionally dangerous in Colossae, is that they were making an idol out of knowledge and believing themselves to be enlightened, even in the middle of confusion. How did Paul address this? After giving thanks for them and praying for wisdom and strength for his brothers and sisters in Christ, he simply spoke the truth about God. Simply speaking about who God is, is so powerful. The list of things to address were many and Paul simply spoke the gospel truth to each one. This points out to me the awesomeness and power of God. Even in His word, there is power, because He made it so. 

I sat down to create a list of all the things we could learn about God from this text. The list is so vast  on the many aspects of God it covers. I wrote at least three pages. First, I just made a list of what it said.  I got fired up. I decided to then write the list saying, “God you are… “, and wrote more out. Recently I have struggled with wondering if I really know myself very well. It seems that at times, my mind has become so unclear, and I wonder if anything I think is right. I wrote and spoke out loud, “God you are my...” for everything I had written. I promise you will not regret doing the same thing. Here are a handful of powerful truths we find about God in this chapter.  

God is generous 

“[...] We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, So that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God [...]”
(Colossians 1:9-10)

God gives hope that produces faith and love. He gives wisdom and understanding and all we have to do is ask and pray like Paul does for the church of Colossae. By receiving that wisdom and acting on it we have the ability to bear good fruit that is pleasing to God.

God Rescues 

He rescued us from the dominion of darkness by sending His beloved son, Jesus to us. He extends his hand in invitation, but doesn’t stop there. He tracks us down and prepares a place for us:

“For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.”
(Colossians 1:13)

To write this out makes me want to keep going on all the things God is and does. So I will:

1. Empowers

2. Qualifies

3. Supreme

4. Redeems

5. The Creator 

 As I wrote and spoke these things, I realized the significance of what was happening. Simply speaking about who God is aloud can be considered worship. It is acknowledging His hand in everything. Just by  describing Him, we bring power and life to a situation. That is the power of God. By combatting the  deception with remembering who God is, we are reminded of His power and awesomeness. When we  remember Christ is in us and has made a way for us to sit in His awesomeness, we learn who we are  because of Him. He is everything. The beginning and the end. He is the way, the truth, and the light. 

Joanna is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She loves Jesus and hopes she never stops learning more about Him. She is a Life Coach working alongside women and adolescence, as well as a mom to amazing 11&13 year old young men. She loves hiking and yoga when she gets the chance to do it. She often enjoys writing, creating, coffee with a friend or book, and laughing while hanging out with her boys.

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Proclaim His Name

Have you ever noticed that in the Bible things are often repeated? Some things are repeated because, for generations, the Torah (Old Testament) was passed down orally and it’s easier to memorize and pass along when things are repetitive. Other times, situations are repeated because while they may have memorized a verse, they didn’t take things to heart. If you have ever been a part of a house church before and while on the question: “What do we learn about God?” someone responded with: “God is Faithful”, “God has a plan”, or “God loves us”. You might have sighed or rolled your eyes because those answers aren’t new. But those are the truths we need to take to heart because in order for us to have faith during the hard times we have to accept those truths fully.  

Why am I talking about repetition? Well, because without repetition we don’t learn the lesson we were meant to learn. In January I wrote about the Woman at the Well and how when she met Jesus, she took that encounter and told everyone that the Messiah had come. And again today, I’m here to show you the example of a woman who loved God and was one of the first to set the example of spreading the good news of Christ’s coming: Anna the Prophetess.   

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“Coming up to [Joseph, Mary, and Jesus] that very moment, she gave thanks to God and Spoke about the child to all who were looking forward to the redemption of Jerusalem.” (Luke 2:38)  

The moment Anna saw Jesus, she knew Him, the woman spent 83 years praying to and praising God. Why wouldn’t she recognize the Lord in the flesh? And what did she do with that knowledge? She told all that she saw about the small baby who was God in the flesh. 

Anna is one of those amazing people you can’t help but admire. She was so different from other women at the time that Luke called her a Prophetess. In case you were wondering, a prophet is defined as: A person regarded as an inspired teacher or proclaimer of the will of God.   I believe that even though Anna wasn’t able to meet God in the Tabernacle. She was privileged to meet Him in that court yard that day. I love that she couldn’t contain herself and told everyone she met, that the Redeemer had come at last. In John 1:4 it says, 

 “So the Word became human and made his home among us. He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness. And we have seen his glory, the glory of the Father’s one and only Son.” 

God blessed Anna that day by giving her a chance to meet Himself, in person. But what was her first instinct? To praise God for the gift he had sent and to talk to everyone she encountered that the Redeemer had finally come to save them all. 

Like a broken record, I want to encourage each of you to be bold, be different, be crazy for Jesus. Follow Anna’s example and do more than just passively worship and pray. Get out there and share with people what Jesus has done for you and what He can do for them.  

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Twirling Dancer

If you have to wear a dress to church, it might as well be a swirly, twirly dress. That was the main criteria I expected from any dress I wore as a child. Why did it need to be twirly? Because when I went to church, the first notes of “Days of Elijah” or “Shout to the Lord” would begin to play and I would go into the aisle and start dancing to the music. It was how I participated in worship and even today while worshiping you can see me swaying or moving a little/a lot. As an adult though I don’t move as freely as I did when I was seven. 

Last week I wrote about how God is no longer separated from us and how Anna felt the need to be as close to God as she could in the time she lived in. This week I want to discuss how: 

We (mankind) are created to worship 

When Anna was widowed she could have returned to her own father’s house and tribe, but instead she went to her heavenly Father’s House, the Temple. Anna didn’t care that it might be odd that she was there all the time. She knew her purpose and walked out that purpose everyday: to worship God. 

In Psalm 100:2-3 (TPT) Moses wrote, 

“Worship Yahweh with gladness. Sing your way into his presence with joy! And realize what this really means— we have the privilege of worshiping Yahweh our God. For he is our Creator and we belong to him. We are the people of his pleasure.”

‭What a privilege Anna was given. A privilege we Christians often take for granted or don’t participate in because we don’t want others to think we are weird. I am completely guilty of this as an adult. Somewhere between being a child, who didn’t care what people thought, and an adult, who cares too much, I have kept to the “acceptable” ways of worship (Cue Tim Hawkins video on Hand Raising). I lift my voice and my hands and worship, but there are moments when I feel the need to dance, but instead I root my feet to the floor because I don’t want to be a distraction to anyone. Instead I distract myself from the worship, which is just as damaging.         

I want to encourage you to be like Anna and give into worship. For me, it might mean giving in to the need to dance. For you, it might mean raising your arms above your waist or maybe even above your head. God is there, patiently waiting to hold your hand and connect with you. 

Will you reach out?      

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Menagerie of Imagination

As a little girl, I would lay awake at night, snuggled up in my patchwork comforter on the top bunk, and stare at the bumps in my ceiling. I would trace puppies, cats, penguins, dragons, houses, human faces, and other such things with my eyes and arms. I remember one night thinking about Heaven and Hell. Pretty odd for an elementary student, right? That night I pointed up at the ceiling and traced an imaginary line among my menagerie of imaginary pictures and thought: That side is Heaven and this side is Hell. For some reason, that made sense to me: that God would live on a side of my ceiling while Satan lived on the other.   

If you’ve read your Bible and dived into the book of Exodus, you will have extensive knowledge of the tabernacle and the importance and purpose of the structure. Fast forward to the time of Jesus’ birth, and we have the Temple built by Herod. While the new Temple was made of precious stone instead of cloth and wood like the Tabernacle, they were made with roughly the same spaces in mind: the Most Holy Place (Where God resided), the Holy Place (where only the Priests could go), and the Outer Courts (where anyone could gather). With the construction of Herod’s temple, there were some extra divisions made in the court area. Essentially, they added the men’s court (reserved for men) and the women’s court.  

Can you imagine, dear ladies, being told that you can go no farther than the lobby at church and then relying on your father or husband to relate what the pastor preached? Anna the Prophetess, in Luke 2:36-38, lived life this way as a widow for 84 years. She loved God so much that she tried to get as physically close to Him as possible during that time. 

“[Anna] never left the temple but worshiped night and day, fasting and praying”

(Luke 2:37)

I want you to take a moment and just reflect on that for a moment. Even though Anna fasted, prayed, and spent her time in the temple, she was still full of sin and therefore couldn’t be in the presence of God. But if you read Luke 2:22-40, you will read something amazing. God in the flesh, the redeemer, was being held in the arms of Mary on his way to be consecrated to the Lord, His Heavenly Father, and Anna recognized Jesus for who He was: The Messiah.    

God doesn’t live in a building 

Because of Jesus’ death on the cross and His resurrection, God no longer lives in the Most Holy Place inside the temple. In fact, Luke 23:45 says,  

“the curtain of the temple was torn in two.”  

The curtain that the verse refers to is the thick, beautiful curtain that separated God from the Priests. It was a literal barrier between us and God that was no longer needed after that day because once you declare that Jesus is the Son of God, sent as a baby, and crucified for your sins so that you can have everlasting life, God comes to live INSIDE of you in the form of the Holy Spirit.  

Looking back at the moment when I traced the line on the ceiling and divided it into Heaven and Hell, I know that in my childish musings I had forgotten that God lived inside my heart. And to be honest, I don’t remember the day I asked Jesus into my heart for the first time (my parents said that I was about 4 years old), but since that day, I have re-devoted my life to God.    

I have some tough questions for you, dear reader: Where does God live in your life? Have you invited Him into your heart or is He out of reach behind a barrier of your own making? Take a moment, pray today, and reflect on this passage and what a gift we have been given in the form of Jesus.  

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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Sloth or Squirrel? // by Chelynn Broughton

Happy Monday! We are in our final week of studying the story of the bent woman from Luke 13:10-17. I hope you have enjoyed reading about the bent woman whose life was touched by Jesus himself that day in the tabernacle.

This week as you read back over the text, you should consider the question:

Are there any commands to obey?

For the past seven weeks, the focus for the Sunday sermons at Church That Matters has been on the “Seven Deadly Sins.” One of those sins is Sloth. Have you ever seen a live sloth? They almost appear to have no bones in their bodies. Imagine relaxing every muscle in your body and just slumping to the ground. That’s how I imagine being a sloth would be. On the other hand, have you ever watched squirrels play? They are anything but slothful. They are like little highly-caffeinated creatures, running up, down, and around, and jumping from tree to tree. They never seem to rest. Which one of these animals are you?

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When Jesus healed the bent woman in Luke, the leader of the tabernacle was angry because Jesus had “worked” on the Sabbath. The word Sabbath comes from a Hebrew word that means to rest or take a break from labor. In Genesis 2:3, the word Sabbath is mentioned for the first time, 

“Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.” 

The word holy means something that is sacred or dedicated to God. God wants the Sabbath day to feel different from the other days of the week; therefore, He asks us to rest from our normal daily routine and dedicate our thoughts and time to Him. Does this mean that we should be slothful and do absolutely nothing on the Sabbath? Is it even possible to do absolutely nothing? It seems like the leader of the tabernacle thought everyone should do just that, but Jesus reminded him that even the feeding of animals was work. Jesus isn’t granting permission to treat the Sabbath like any other work day though. If you are more like a squirrel during the week, running constantly and focusing on work and the things of this world, God asks you to stop and rest from that and set your mind on Him for one day each week.  He gave us permission to take a break and reset for the week to come, just like He did after creating the world that we live in.

Command: Take a break and focus on God.

God gave you permission to take the day off. Can you do that? Stop being a squirrel for one day, reset your thoughts and focus on God each Sunday. You don’t have permission to be a sloth though. If you have become lazy in your spiritual life, begin by dedicating Sundays to the Lord: attend church, take a break from work, and enjoy the time by focusing on the good things God has given you. 

This is the day the LORD has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.
Psalm 118:24                  

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

Guilty as Charged // by Chelynn Broughton

Happy Monday! We are in our third week of studying the story of the bent woman from Luke 13:10-17. 

This week as you read over the text, you should consider the question:

Are there any sins to repent of or commands to obey?

Many of you may not know that I am an English teacher at Charles Page High School. I've taught English in multiple schools for almost 25 years now. I've learned a lot about myself over these 25 years. One thing I've realized is that I am a rule follower. I'm all about the rules: grammar rules, classroom rules, dress-code rules, and rules of behavior. I believe that rules are made for a reason; therefore, they should be enforced, so I have always tried to implement them, especially in my classroom. For many years, I was known as the "hat Nazi" because I would make students remove their hats in the hallway or in my classroom. Some of the worst confrontations I have had with my students have been over hats. That seems pretty ridiculous, right? They didn't understand why it was a big deal. To me, it was a "respect" thing that had been drilled into my head for years. You didn't wear a hat in a building, especially church and school. It was a rule that made me miserable more than once. About three years ago, the high school administrators lifted the rule about wearing hats in the building, and students felt like they had won a major battle. I was frustrated at first, but my life became so much simpler once I was able to stop seeing those hat-wearing students as rebels, and I barely even notice the students wearing hats anymore. Why am I telling you this?

Well, like most of you, when I first read the passage about the bent woman, I immediately got upset with the leader of the synagogue and wondered how he could be so angry after Jesus himself had healed this poor woman who had been suffering for 18 long years. Shouldn't he have been happy that he had witnessed a miracle in his tabernacle instead of reading everyone the riot act for coming to be healed on the Sabbath? When Jesus put them in their place by calling them hypocrites and explaining that even they worked on the Sabbath, I found myself cheering Him on. (Go, Jesus!) But this week, as I started thinking about the sins to repent of, I discovered that I am not that different from the leaders of the synagogue. I was guilty of being a hypocrite. I was all caught up in the rules and making sure that everyone else was following those rules that I wasn't seeing the good that was going on around me. I'm pretty sure that I would have asked Jesus to remove His hat if He had walked into my classroom as a teenager. 

Sin: Judging others for what they are guilty of doing

Matthew 7:3 asks us,

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?

Last week, I talked about focus and asked what you are focused on, this world or things from above. As ridiculous as this sounds, once they did away with the hat rule, my focus on many things changed. It is like the plank in my eye was removed, and my outlook on life became brighter. 

As the title says, I was guilty as charged. I wasn't breaking the hat rule, but had I broken other rules in my life? Of course. 

Jesus wasn't there to call me a hypocrite, but in Romans 3:23 it says,

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God”

I was so focused on the sin of others that I couldn't see my own sin. In Luke 13:17, the hypocrites are called Jesus' "enemies" or "opponents," and it says that they were "humiliated." Were those religious leaders actually enemies of God looking to destroy the reputation of Jesus, or were they just caught up in the rules of the time? If you read on in Luke, you will find the answer to that question.

For now, I leave you with these questions: What is keeping you from seeing the good things going on around you? Are you so focused on the splinters in the eyes of others that you can't see past the plank in your own eye? 

Footnote:
A plank weighs on average 93.6 lbs. That much weight in a person's eye would have them bent over for sure.

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

Eyes on the Prize // by Chelynn Broughton

Eyes on the Prize // by Chelynn Broughton

Happy Monday! We are in our second week of studying the story of the bent woman from Luke 13:10-17. This past week was Spring Break, a favorite holiday for all teachers, and as I focused again on the story of the bent woman in the synagogue, I thought back to my first Spring Break ski trip. It was a little over ten years ago. My husband loves to ski and had gone many times over the years, but I had never skied before. Morgan, my step-daughter, who was ten and my son, Jeremy, who was a student at OU at the time, went  with us. Neither of them had ever skied before either.

We drove to Taos, NM, checked in at the condo, and headed to the slopes. Once there, Jeremy (the smart one) signed up for ski lessons and went off on his own. Joe surveyed the slopes and decided that the lower areas were pretty icy, so we should get on a lift and go higher where the snow was heavier. I naively followed him, thinking he was the expert. Trusting him completely, I climbed onto a lift and went up the mountain.

Once there, all I could focus on was the steep drop offs that were on one side of the mountain where I was now supposed to learn to ski. Morgan had no problems maneuvering her skis around in the snow, but no matter how hard I tried, I just kept skiing straight towards the edge of the cliffs. I would then drop to the ground to prevent myself from plummeting off the mountain. I did this over and over again, and finally, emotionally exhausted, I gave up completely.  I wanted to cry! I didn’t think I would ever get off that mountain. I ended up getting directly behind Joe with my skis inside his, and I held on to his waist as he skied us to the bottom. Talk about embarrassing and terrifying!

Needless to say, I signed up to take lessons that afternoon and sat out the rest of the morning while Joe and Morgan skied all over the mountain. The first lesson they taught us that afternoon was that our skis would go where our eyes went. That was like a lightbulb in my head! The reason I kept heading toward the steep cliffs is because that’s where my focus was going. Once I figured this out, I almost enjoyed skiing. I’m still a beach girl though and always will be.

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 As we return to the story of the bent woman, we consider the question:

What do we learn about man from this story?

To answer this question, let’s look at how the others who were in the tabernacle behaved. After Jesus called the woman out of the crowd and healed her,

“she immediately stood up straight and praised God. The leader of the tabernacle became angry and harshly criticized the crowd for coming to be healed on the Sabbath.”

In verses 15-16, “Jesus criticizes the leaders of the synagogue and calls them hypocrites.” Then we find out that, “Jesus’ opponents were humiliated.” Finally, “the people in the crowd were delighted” with the wonderful things that Jesus was doing. Through this, we learn that:

Man’s focus is not on the right thing.

The bent woman’s focus was inevitably on the pain and suffering that she had gone through for 18 years. She had only been able to look down for all of those years.

The leader of the synagogue’s focus was on the enforcement of the law.

The people in the crowd were focused on the routine of the day. I imagine they were irritated by the crowd and were pushing forward through the people trying to get closer to the “show.” They were probably more focused on themselves than what Jesus had to say.  (This might be similar to what some go through every Sunday morning as they perform their weekly church-going routine.)

But…Jesus changed all of this when He focused on the woman no one else could see. When He healed her, her focus changed. I imagine that she loudly praised God as she focused upward for the first time in 18 years. The others in the crowd had a focus change as well, and I’m sure they passionately praised God for the miracle He had just performed. The leaders, however, were still focused on the wrong things, and they are then labeled enemies of Jesus. 

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Focus is important in our walk with Jesus. The Bible is full of scriptures talking about where you should focus.

Colossians 3:2 (ESV) tells us to:

“Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.”

Where is your focus? If all you see are the troubles in your life, then maybe you need to shift your focus to things that are above. 

This week I challenge you to stand up straight and praise God for the wonderful things He has done and will continue to do in your life.

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

God’s Healing Power // By Chelynn Broughton

My husband loves to tell people the story of how, because I was so blind, my forehead would almost touch the bathroom counter when I put my contacts in every morning. He thinks it is hilarious and even acts out the motions for everyone to see. 

That was before God’s complete restoration of my eyesight. A miracle? Kind of…

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This month’s story is from Luke 13:10-17. A woman who had been crippled by an evil spirit for eighteen years was healed by Jesus when He noticed her in a large crowd of people. They were in the synagogue where Jesus was teaching on the Sabbath Day. Because of her illness, she was bent double and unable to stand up straight, but Jesus saw her and called her over to Him. He said,

“Woman, you are set free from your infirmity.” (Luke 13:12)

Then He touched her, and immediately she stood up straight and praised God.

What Do We Learn About God?

God can heal us. 

We just have to be present for Him to see us. 

Had she gone there expecting to be healed? We don’t really know, but we do know that she was in the synagogue, which is a place for religious worship or instruction. She had a desire for something from God. Did she know that Jesus would be there teaching? I know that if I had heard of Jesus and his healing power and knew He was going to be there, that is exactly where I would have been. Unlike the woman with the bleeding issue who had followed Jesus through the crowd to touch His robe (Mark 5:25-29), this woman had not chased after Jesus. He had called her out of the crowd. The only thing she did to receive her healing was to be present and to answer Jesus’ call to her. 

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My healing experience also started when my name was called out of a large crowd of people. It wasn’t Jesus who called my name, but it was the answer to my prayers. A friend of mine had invited me to a seminar at Triad Eye Institute where she was preparing to have laser eye surgery. She had enticed me with the news that they would be having a drawing and giving away a free laser eye surgery. I had worn glasses or contacts since I was in the 7th grade, and my eyes had steadily gotten worse since then, so I went expecting to gain knowledge if nothing else. When my name was called, I stood up straight and praised God just like the bent woman did. God had answered my prayers! After that surgery, I had better than perfect vision. God healed me, and all I had to do was be present and hear the call. 

What evil spirits are afflicting you? Are your ailments physical, mental, spiritual, or emotional? Maybe your sickness doesn’t have you bent over double, and maybe you don’t think anyone knows the suffering you are going through, but God sees you and, He can set you free from any infirmities you have. 

“’But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the LORD…”
Jeremiah 30:17

Are you where you need to be for Jesus to see you? 

If he calls you out of the crowd, will you answer His call?

Chelynn is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She is a long-time daughter of Christ, a wife, mother of two amazing adult children, and Nonnie to four beautiful grandchildren. She teaches Senior English at Charles Page High School and is also a Realtor for Keller Williams. She enjoys all things summer including boating, vacationing, and swimming.

The Call // by Joanna Goodin

It’s a fresh start to a new week. This is our final week of studying the story of Mary and Martha. This week, we look for: commands to obey and examples to follow.

 It really seems that both ladies got a lot right and gave us good examples in different areas. Martha was hospitable. In fact, she ran to Jesus and invited Him into her home. Mary was a connector. She desired to talk with Jesus and sat to listen. The longing to run to Jesus and feel the call to serve Him, is so beautiful. Equally beautiful is the desire to fall at His feet and listen to His voice.

 I joked in the previous post (perhaps not the best joke), that Martha could have laid out the fish and bread and let Jesus do His thing. Truly though, there is much joy in putting our love in action, and much joy in a hard day’s work. She wanted to use acts of service to love Him well. To invite Jesus in, but be unwilling to serve Him and His kingdom, will rob us of relationship and joy. 

 The fact that Jesus says Mary has chosen what is better, but never says Martha needed to stop working, makes me think that we are to have a bit of a Mary posture along with a Martha like work ethic as we serve. Perhaps the balance is to run to Him, fall at His feet, listen, and learn who He is and carry our relationship with Him, and that same countenance, into our work. I do my quiet time in the living room or my bedroom. I love that time and often I would rather stay in that space all day. It is amazing how often I have caught myself closing my Bible, going to start the day and by lunch my brain is scattered and spinning with a to do list. When I keep the right posture, all the work, and to do lists are done with Him and done unto Him. Basically, I need to stop acting like I left Jesus in the living room as soon as I got into the kitchen. When we serve like Martha, and keep our hearts on Him, our work becomes worship. 

 So much of this story feels more like an invitation or a call to come to Him than commands. Often though, when we see a call in the Bible, we will find a command that matches it somewhere else throughout scripture. Let’s remember His commands are not meant to keep us from enjoying life, but to give us life. 

Come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.
Matthew 11:28

Whatever you do, whether in the word or in deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.
Colossians 3:17

We are to go to Him. He wants a relationship with us and He isn’t just saying it would be good if you were a part of that. God is saying to go to Him and to do all things in His name with a heart for Him. Martha went to Jesus and asked to serve Him. Mary went to Him when He arrived. She sat with Jesus, and listened to Him. Martha went to Him again later when she was full of anxiety. Go to Him. Know Him. Serve Him. Worship Him as we serve, work and speak. Go to God before you’re anxious, and go to Him when anxiety has already struck. The two basic commands I have found in this passage are: Follow Him and Fellowship with Him.

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I have regrets, but none have ever included obedience or relationship with Jesus. What is one thing you can do to respond to His call and command to follow and fellowship with Him today and through the week? Spend time asking Him where He is telling you specifically to obey. Ask Him where He is saying your relationship with Him could use some work and sit at His feet and listen. He will always answer when you call out to Him.

Joanna is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She loves Jesus and hopes she never stops learning more about Him. She is a Life Coach working alongside women and adolescence, as well as a mom to amazing 11&13 year old young men. She loves hiking and yoga when she gets the chance to do it. She often enjoys writing, creating, coffee with a friend or book, and laughing while hanging out with her boys.

Healer or Instant Pot? // by Joanna Goodin

Happy Monday! We are in our third week of studying the story of Mary and Martha. This week, we are looking for sins to repent of and commands to obey. We tend to either pick Martha apart or blow off the other good lessons. Really, compared to other Biblical scandals, Martha’s sins do not seem so big.  

If we were to look at this situation from the lens of 2021, we could be tempted to say where she first went wrong would be not planning to have dinner prepped and ready to throw in an instant pot or crockpot. Dinner could have been going while she sat with Jesus and Mary. I mean, if she wasn’t going to set a fillet of fish, a loaf of bread and a glass of water on the counter, and let Him do His thing, she could of at least planned on how to make the best meal quickly.  Something tells me this was not about a lack of planning and that Martha had some good mental lists going. Maybe to the point, that like me, she feels overwhelmed with it all. Sometimes it is the little daily things we struggle with and where our minds go that are holding us back from intimacy with Jesus, just as I think was the case for Martha. 

This would be a great time to refresh on Luke 10:38-42, if you haven’t already. In verse 39 we see Mary sitting and learning at the feet of Jesus and in Luke 10:40 we see what Martha is up to:

“But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to Him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”

Martha was definitely in a close relationship with Jesus speak to Him like that. She also clearly assumed that she was in the right and Jesus would back her up. Martha was living up to the expectations she knew. We recognized before, that in this culture, Martha was doing what she was supposed to do. It was revolutionary in that time for Mary to have been sitting and learning at any man’s feet. Jesus came and turned a lot upside down, or maybe it’s better to say, right side up.  How often do we let past experiences or the expectations of ourselves, and others make our own view of what we think He requires of us become hazy?

“Martha, Martha”, the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed-or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken from her.”
Luke 10:41

If I had to put it into words, the Sin I feel Martha is falling prey to is being distracted from Her God given calling. We can get so focused on using our gifts and trying to find our place or our calling, that we get distracted from the greatest calling: a personal relationship with Jesus.

We are called to follow Christ; to fellowship with Christ; to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength.  When we do that, glorifying Him with our gifts comes. If we follow Him, we will serve. We do not see Him telling her to stop working. While it is so very important we be still and know He is God, we are most definitely expected to do work and to serve. It seems that what this is most about, is the headspace Martha got into. It takes work, but we can dwell with Him as we work.

If we get consumed with using our gifts, but lose sight of the gifter, we are doing busy work. If we fast without prayer, we are simply restricting food. If we sing the words, but our hearts aren’t for him, our praise becomes noise.  Our minds are prone to wander, and He knows this. Sitting with Him intentionally, helps us have the discipline of sitting at His feet in our hearts, and His ways in our minds. 

We will always need His help to do this consistently, but it is what He wants. He wanted to take the worries and anxieties of Martha just as He does with us. Jesus wants to heal our anxieties, but we must take them to Him. Even more than He wants to heal, He wants us to know the healer. Leaving behind what we think He or others wants us to do, and before we try to get things right, He wants us to go to Him and let Him teach us who He is and what is better.

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God, thank you so much for being so gentle with us. Thank you for seeing our hearts and calling us back to you. Help us look for and listen for your voice to call us back even when we are choosing what is good, but You have better for us. Help us choose You first, always. Help us learn to keep our gaze on You, in the big and the little things through our days. When trouble comes, help us go to You expectantly for help. Thank You that it is never to late to sit at Your feet. The invite is there. Helps us go through our week making even the mundane tasks feel like mindful worship to You.

Joanna is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She loves Jesus and hopes she never stops learning more about Him. She is a Life Coach working alongside women and adolescence, as well as a mom to amazing 11&13 year old young men. She loves hiking and yoga when she gets the chance to do it. She often enjoys writing, creating, coffee with a friend or book, and laughing while hanging out with her boys.

Stronger Together // by Joanna Goodin

If you joined us last week, you know we looked at how God loves us personally, calls us by name, and longs for us to enjoy being present with Him. We have been walking through the story of Mary and Martha found in Luke 10:38-42. I encourage you to take a moment to read, or reread the passage if you haven’t already, and join us as we ask:

What do we learn about mankind?

We desperately need the Holy Spirit.

For us to genuinely love God, we need His help in the form of the Holy Spirit. Martha was lucky, she had the option to literally speak to Jesus in person. But today in order to have the opportunity of any kind of conversation we have to let go and allow Jesus/the Holy Spirit into our hearts. I wonder if part of her frustration was that she longed to sit at His feet but let her daily life get in her way. She clearly wanted to invite him in, serve him, and love him.

Sitting at his feet with a desire to learn is the only way we can learn to live and choose as Jesus did. His ways are better than our ways. Sometimes, especially as women, we see all the details of what needs to be done. If we did not love Jesus, or our families, or churches, and desire to serve them, the details would not feel so important. Without the Holy Spirit leading us, Satan can use our holy desires to exhaust us and fill us with anxiety before we even get started.

Just as I mentioned last week, Jesus points out Marth’s anxieties but He also tells her,

“Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken from her.” Luke 10:42

Mary chose what is good: being with Jesus. Martha needed acknowledgment and direction from Jesus to help point her in the right direction. Sometimes, as we love Jesus, we can choose what is good, but it takes sitting at His feet and letting Him lead us, to help us choose what is better.

We are stronger together!

Mary and Martha both loved Jesus in their own unique way. Mary longed to learn from Jesus, while Martha felt the desire to serve Him. But there is a need for balance. Because there will be a time when people like Mary need to be reminded to act on what they have learned and a time when Marthas, obviously, need to be reminded to soak in time with just Jesus.

That is where the body of Christ (other believers) comes in. We need the presence of other believers and their gifting to make us strong. We are all called to sit with Him, to serve Him, to serve and care for others in many ways. We need the guidance of Jesus, other believers to work together to make it all flow and serve Him at our best.

Where are you choosing what is good, instead of what is better? Have you taken time today to express your need for Him to help you choose what is best?

God, please help us love you better, and invite you into every day, moment, and decision. Thank you for your patience with us as you teach us to love more like you. Help us be pliable and make room for your voice and ready to be taught. Help us first go to you and learn to work together as a body that puts your first, so that your will can be done!

Joanna is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She loves Jesus and hopes she never stops learning more about Him. She is a Life Coach working alongside women and adolescence, as well as a mom to amazing 11&13 year old young men. She loves hiking and yoga when she gets the chance to do it. She often enjoys writing, creating, coffee with a friend or book, and laughing while hanging out with her boys.

Personal // by Joanna Goodin

Have you ever felt overlooked or taken for granted? Maybe you feel like you are too much, or not enough? Maybe you have felt like your gifts didn’t bring as much to the table as the next lady’s. Me? Check, check, annnnd check.  I am guessing if we are all honest with ourselves, we have all felt these things at some point in our lives. Please read Luke 10:38-42 and find comfort in knowing we are all in good company. Please, know that these problems come with a solution more healing than yoga, washing your face, and a delicious cup of Boulder coffee combined.

We enter the scene in the town of Bethany, at the home of Mary and Martha. Martha has extended an invite to Jesus and his disciples. During this time, hospitality was both important and expected, just as it was expected that the lady of the house to be preparing meals and serving. Martha was acting like she was taught and most likely had the gift of service and hospitality. 

Meanwhile, her sister, Mary was sitting at the feet of Jesus and listening to Him teach. This would not have been allowed in social gatherings. Neither Mary, who was just sitting there soaking it all in, nor Jesus were phased by this deviation from cultural norms (can I get a hallelujah). But Martha was upset by this situation. Maybe she thought Mary was not behaving as a woman should and needed to be reprimanded. Or it could be that Martha was a go-getter and thought Mary a bit lackadaisical. Whatever the case, there is a lot we can learn from this passage and this week we will ask the question:

What do we learn about God?

He gets personal with us.

Here is what we do know. Jesus loved these ladies and was gently, calling them to have a relationship with Him. In fact, when Martha tells Jesus to have Mary help her, he responds by connecting with Martha and letting her know He sees her heart. He says,

“Martha, Martha, you are anxious and worried about many things.”

Luke 10:41

He calls her by name...twice. This shows the importance of what He was going to say, but also how personal He is with us. Jesus did not just let the women stand in the kitchen and overhear, He called them to come and learn. He took the time to connect with Martha, before correcting her. He corrected in a way that brought her back to a relationship, rather than demean her in public. Notice that Jesus tells Martha that Mary has chosen what is better. We will talk more about this another week, but for now just take note that He was not saying that her ways of service were wrong. Jesus was saying that at that time, Mary had chosen the He was just telling her the other option was the better one, and Mary had chosen that. We see he kind of sticks up for Mary. He defends Mary’s choice to sit and listen and learn from him, in a way that does not berate Martha. We see he longs for time spent with us at his feet. He wants to show us how well he knows us and loves us anyway. He wants us to know him and not just study him, but find joy, peace, and wisdom sitting at his feet, submitting to his presence and teachings.

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As more of a Mary, in my childhood, I find this comforting because I always felt I did not quite measure up. I was all about the connection and friendship. But let’s be honest, that wasn’t going to win me any praise in the busy go-getter culture we live in, at least that is how I felt. Now, as a mom and a wife, I see myself more of Martha’s tendencies mixing with my Mary qualities. Which is not necessarily a bad thing.

Where do you need to invite Jesus to minister to you this week? Do you need rest? His yoke is light. Do you need validation? He knows you and sees your heart and what is going on in your life. Do you need to be reminded of who you really are? He calls us by name, and invites us in. Take a breath sister. Whichever end of the spectrum you currently find yourself on, Jesus sees your heart, and is longing for you to connect with Him.

Please share! We love to hear from and learn from each other and don’t forget to share: What you learned about God from this visit with Mary and Martha.

Joanna is a contributing writer for Shaken and Stirred. She loves Jesus and hopes she never stops learning more about Him. She is a Life Coach working alongside women and adolescence, as well as a mom to amazing 11&13 year old young men. She loves hiking and yoga when she gets the chance to do it. She often enjoys writing, creating, coffee with a friend or book, and laughing while hanging out with her boys.

Photo by Andriyko Podilnyk on Unsplash

The Whole Truth // by Heather Dillingham

A week ago, I sat in the front row at church as the call was made for those who needed healing to come forward for prayer and anointing from the Elders. I watched as people stepped forward and were honest with themselves, God, and His people about what they needed. A week ago, instead of moving forward, I stood still.

Earlier in the week, my daughter, Gwen exhibited symptoms that made us wonder if her shunt was failing. Thankfully, it turned out she just a stomach bug. The experience (not to mention catching the bug myself the next day) left me physically and emotionally drained. This was just another tough week in a series of extremely taxing weeks for me. I have felt the enemy attack using anxiety, sleep deprivation, and indecision to distract me.

Yet, I didn’t move from my seat. How often do we (women, mothers, and wives) try to fool ourselves into thinking we are “OK”? How often do we stay planted instead of moving when God calls us, offering healing and peace? We refuse to embrace the whole truth and be vulnerable to others, ourselves, and God.

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In our reading today we will be looking at the bleeding woman who broke this narrative by baring “the whole truth” to Jesus. Please take a moment to read back through Mark 5: 24-34 (NIV).

 “Examples to Follow”

Tell God the whole truth

When Jesus felt His power leave Him, He called out to the crowd. It would have been extremely easy for the woman to stand still, having taken her miracle, and allow the crowd to overtake and hide her. Maybe she thought she wasn’t important enough to answer the call, or that others around her might judge her? Thankfully, our story doesn’t end there.

The woman became an example to follow as, despite her fear and trembling, she moved forward to tell Jesus “the whole truth”. What’s funny is that Jesus knew the truth already. He always does. But He honors those who are willing to be vulnerable and honest. This shows in the final verse where He blesses her further and tells her to go in peace.

Did you catch that, she was further blessed because of her honesty! Just as each of those who, despite their own reservations, went forward the other week for anointing and healing. This isn’t to say God is holding back on you, but the opposite. We are holding back on God. He can’t work on us if we aren’t being honest with ourselves and with Him.

When you have a moment this week, I encourage you to pray and ask God to reveal where you could be more like the bleeding woman in her honesty. If you feel comfortable, share what he tells you.

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Looking back at the passage, are there other examples you see to follow or commands?

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) one-year-old. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

Questions and Miracles // by Heather Dillingham

When I graduated college, my media professor made a point to tell me that in all of his years teaching, he had never had a student ask so many questions. I was the top of the class, so I know he didn’t mean it negatively. But you see, I strive to understand every little detail of anything I don’t understand, and I explore every option if there’s a choice to be made. Helpful in the academic arena, but a hindrance in everyday life and more importantly, my faith. 

 Twenty-twenty showed this in full stride when a normal 4-month check-up for my daughter ended with an ultrasound and a diagnosis of Hydrocephalus (fluid on the brain). I threw my hands up, begging God for a miracle and praying that the doctors were wrong. 

 With each new test, hospital stay, and surgery my hands got lower and lower. My heart got progressively harder as I started to question everything. I questioned God’s goodness, His ability to heal my daughter, and His empathy to do so, even if He could. 

 Today’s reading reminds me that I’m not the only one who has allowed this questioning to challenge the truth that is Jesus. As you read back through Mark 5: 25-34 (NIV) pay attention to the way others respond to the woman’s actions and ask yourself the question:  

 “Are there any sins to repent of?” 

Sin: Questioning Jesus 

When the woman reached out and grabbed Jesus’s cloak, the Bible says “at once” He felt the power go out from Him. But when Jesus asked who touched Him, He was given this reply… 

“You see the people crowding against you,” his disciples  

answered, “and yet you can ask, ‘Who touched me?’”  

Mark 5:31 

Anyone else feel like the disciples were getting a little sarcastic here? Instead of answering Jesus, they mocked and questioned. Yet, Jesus knew there was a change and so did the woman.  

For a long time after my daughter’s diagnosis I allowed myself to question Jesus like the disciples did here. It was only after time, space, and a clarity that could only have come from God that I realized at the center of my questioning, was doubt.  

Like me, the disciples used their questioning to hide their doubt in Jesus’s power. They had witnessed miraculous things, yet doubt still crept in and clouded their minds. Causing them to miss the miracle unfolding in front of their own eyes. 

It’s far too easy to fall into the sin of questioning God, and His wisdom, when things go wrong in this world. This sin leaves us missing miracles and doubting our creator.  

Where do you find yourself questioning/doubting God in your life? What other sins did you see in this passage to avoid? 

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) one-year-old. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

Reaching for the World or Jesus? // by Heather Dillingham

In my life I have turned toward many things to give me joy, comfort, and healing. Things like food, entertainment, and the newest health fads. But the truth is, not once have any of those things made me feel complete, whole, or even slightly better. 

 Doubtless I’m not the only one who has done this. This world teaches us through constant ads, streams, and posts that it has all the answers. Through the world we can become stronger, smarter, and prettier. It (the world) is all we need.

Before my miscarriage I lived selfishly by the world. I went to church, but left God at the door on Sunday. I felt like I had a gaping whole in my life and I used the world to try to fix it. Even my attempt at getting pregnant was an attempt to lean on the world. “Oh if I just had a baby, life would get better. I’d be happier.” Losing my child hurt. But I know God used tragedy to remind me that this world can not and will never be what I need to feel whole.

Let’s take a look back at our story. I encourage you to read back through Mark 5:25-34 (NIV) with this weeks question in mind:

“What did we learn about mankind?”

Mankind tries to solve problems through the world before going to God

Just like us, the bleeding woman believed in the world. She spent all that she had on ‘experts’ who convinced her they had all the answers. Instead of the world saving her, it chewed her up and left her to die penniless, in pain, and alone. It was only after she stopped looking to the world to heal her and looked to Jesus that she was healed.

This passage teaches us that mankind is flawed in our view of the world. The world was made by God, yet we too often allow it to become our god. Our protector, our healer, our comforter. We seek a solution we can hold in our hands instead of lifting our hands. And it doesn’t stop there.

The world is persistent in its efforts to get us to seek it first. When Jesus turned to the crowd to ask who had touched His cloak the woman was afraid. She turned back to leaning on the world and what it told her, which was that she was unclean and unwanted. But that isn’t what Jesus saw. He saw a woman filled with faith and blessed her with peace because of it.

Just like her, I still struggle with leaning too hard on the world sometimes. But God is always there to nudge me back to Him like the wonderful shepherd He is.

Have you been leaning on the world instead of on God? What are the truths He says about you? What other things did you learn about mankind from this passage?

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) one-year-old. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

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Hope to the Hopeless // by Heather Dillingham

My Story

Have you ever felt like nothing you do matters? Like the whole world is against you? In other words, have you ever felt hopeless? The devil loves to make us feel this way in order to stop us from reaching for the one true hope. When I first came to CTM in 2018 I was struggling with hope.

 The year before had been one of the hardest of my life. I hated my job, my relationship with my husband hadn’t been good for years, I was the unhealthiest I have ever been, and my support base was almost nonexistent. Anxiety and depression were my companions.

 Despite all of this, or maybe because of this, we decided to start trying for a child and miraculously got pregnant. I was so excited! It felt like we were healing. I was healing. Weeks later, as I watched what was far too much blood leave my body, I knew I was wrong.

 I blamed God, but most of all, I blamed myself.  In the weeks it would take for my body to recover and the months for my mind, I seriously thought about ending my life. I felt unclean, alone, and absolutely hopeless.

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The woman we are reading about this week went through this kind of isolation, pain, and hopelessness for YEARS. Please take a moment to read Mark 5: 25-34 NIV.

The passage teaches us of a woman who was desperate. Her body had been hemorrhaging for 12-years. Not only would she have been in extreme pain, but she would also have been isolated because women with this condition were considered unclean and therefor couldn’t interact normally with society. She had done everything she could to heal herself, spending everything she had and suffering even more pain. She was unclean, alone, and absolutely hopeless.

 Until, one day, she heard of Jesus. It would have been easy to hear of this new healer and assume He would be like all the rest. She had no more money to give, even if He could heal her. Thankfully, Jesus’s healing isn’t something we can pay for. His presence alone brought her hope and gave her enough faith to just reach out. With that one little act, Jesus healed her.

 What this passage teaches us about God is that He can bring hope to the hopeless. You see, God doesn’t want his children hopeless. He is the hope of the world! I learned this as I cried out seeking comfort and strength as I processed my miscarriage. And this woman learned it as nothing (not her pain, her past, or her status) stopped her from reaching out to the one true healer. Her hope wasn’t in vain and neither is yours.

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What is holding you back from accepting God’s hope? Are you reaching out? Using the sword method, discuss, what did you learn about God from this passage?

Heather is a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a believer, a wife, and a mother to a wonderful (and sometimes crazy) one-year-old. She enjoys reading, playing video games, and listening to podcasts. She can usually be taking care of the home and playing on the floor with her daughter.

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Commands at the Well

When I was kid my parents had a colorful, fragrant garden. The backyard was a mixture of fragrant flowers and tasty vegetables. In the Summer I spent time sketching lilacs, sipping honeysuckle nectar, and helping mom collect tomatoes, green peppers, squash, beets and whatever else we had planted. In the fall, I watching Dad dig for potatoes and prepare the garden for Winter.

The best part of having a garden was harvesting the food, because that meant it was time for savory, steaming, stuffed peppers; juicy, ruby, red tomatoes sliced and sprinkled with glittering white sugar; and tangy, sweet strawberries with cool whipped cream. As a child I found joy in reaping the harvest and the benefits of all the yummy food my family would make. As an adult I now find joy in not just the harvesting, but in the sowing of seeds and in the husbandry of the plants that grow and produce.

This simple joy I find in plants is something that Jesus used often in the Bible to describe a difficult concept to His followers. He also used these parables or analogies to point out where his Disciples failed to see the point of an encounter. Encounters like the Samaritan woman at the well.     

This week marks the end of our journey with the Samaritan Woman and I encourage you all to read John 4:4-42 once more and ask your self the question:

Are there any Commands to Obey or Examples to Follow?

Commandment: Sow & Reap  

What did the Samaritan woman do right after she left Jesus? She proclaimed to all that he was Messiah and sowed seeds by telling her testimony to the people in her community. In John 4:35-38, Jesus tells his Disciples:

“Don’t you have a saying, ‘It’s still four months until harvest’? I tell you, open your eyes and look at the fields! They are ripe for harvest. Even now the one who reaps draws a wage and harvests a crop for eternal life, so that the sower and the reaper may be glad together. Thus the saying ‘One sows and another reaps’ is true. I sent you to reap what you have not worked for. Others have done the hard work, and you have reaped the benefits of their labor.”

When the Disciples caught up to Jesus, they were focused on the normal things one thinks about while traveling: food and water. Seeing Jesus talking to the woman, they assumed He was getting refreshment at the well, feeding his physical body. But Jesus points them back to the reason they are traveling: to preach and expand the kingdom of God. Instead of feeding His body He was feeding the soul of someone lost. Jesus planted a seed, watered it, and reaped a harvest all in one conversation.  

How often do we let our daily travels distract us from our purpose? I can say for a fact that I often miss the point of an interaction with someone. How many chances to sow a seed of hope have I let slip through my fingers because I was busy, tired, uncomfortable, and yes, even scared.

God will place opportunities in front of us. Times where we can sow seeds and times where we can reap a harvest (bring people to Christ). There are times when I take comfort in the idea that if I didn’t act on a nudge from the Holy Spirit that someone else would. But now I’m thinking that was my fear talking. How many times have I talked myself out of the joy of leading someone to Christ because I was scared of what they would think of me?

I encourage you sisters, to be like the Samaritan woman and speak out for Christ in your everyday life. Sow seeds and reap harvests for God. Remember, you were a harvest that was reaped and is being resown. The kingdom of God is not finished bringing in the harvest, do your part.   

Bethany Thomas is the Publicity Coordinator and a contributing writer for Shaken & Stirred. She is a daughter of God, a wife, and a dog mom. When not writing for the blog, you are most likely to find her reading a fantasy novel or crafting at her home in Sapulpa, OK.

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